find it VERY difficult to "finish" with my Partner

Hi Zac

Many people with an addiction to porn and masturbation report that they have porn-induced erectile dysfunction (PIED) and desensitization (DE) of the penis. It seems that these things don't originate with person to person sex. It is high-speed internet porn which causes these awful problems (which are exacerbated by an addiction to masturbation. Make sure you read some of the the information on www.yourbrainonporn.com

 

Zac there is hope! I was exactly like you not long ago! I found it almost impossible to finish with my partner too. Then I stopped looking at P and stopped M'ing. Just recently I began to finish during regular intercourse. Now I have no trouble at all. See if you can go a couple weeks without PMO. You will feel better and have a new clarity I swear.

 

Yes, Zac. Inability to finish with a person is often caused by a porn addiction. That's the exact reason why I quit and I can finish almost every time now.

 

^^^ This! I've reset before, but with my last reset prior to this, I went three weeks without P or M. And with my ex (we are exes but that's not because of PMO on my part) I was not only able to maintain, but finish with my partner.

Which is why I've decided to really get off my ass and make this a lifelong change. Only with eliminating PMO on my part, will I enjoy and finish more with a future partner(s).

 

I too have similar problem. I find more satisfaction watching P than actually making out. However I have stopped watching P for almost a month now and I think things are getting better. I can stay hard for longer time thus improving the end result
This site is awesome. It is helping me stay sober as I don't want to relapse and become a loser It feels great to see the no P days accrue.

 

Sex with my partner is way better since I quit PMO. I look forward to it, instead of worrying about it. I'm more likely to initiate it, which means that it happens more often. I'm more open about talking about what I want during sex.
I'm actually a little jealous of your not finishing, even though I know it must be really frustrating. I'm interested in trying sex without ejaculating. Do you find it pleasurable? Or does it just hurt?