I'd like to discuss about how porn made our lives worse. If you have terrible stories, please tell me. I'd like to listen to your opinions or stories.
Not only porn but PMO together: 1) Feeling drained 2) Lethargic 3) Lost motivation 4) Lost quality of sleep 5) Waste of time 6) Objectify women 7) Brain Fog 8) Wanting to be Isolated
*Making fragile mentally. *Making very sensitive. *Making not thinking about other people by standing on their side. *Making the bad smell on my body. *Making suspicious behaviors. *Making stamina less. *Making testosterone less that results in women far away. *Making perfectionist. *Making careless actions. *Making weird thoughts. *Making me meet NoFap
Porn gave me: depression, anxiety, stuttering and occasionally depersonalisation symptoms. I thought that was part of me, but after NoFap i realized that it was porn that altered my neurochechicals and pathways. And most important: it gave me ED. It cost me (almost ) my career, which i now try to compensate and catch up on. Porn use also made me miss the train of getting a gf and family.
honestly I got bored of porn, nothing intimate about it, nothing rewarding, i lost touch with my life and with other people, im taking back my life and its exciting
Start with internet porn at 12\13 yo, probably at 15 i was already fucked up bad. It destroyed my life, made me live like a zombie for 20+ years, it restrained me for feeling any kind of emotion in life and any kind of joy. It ruined my body, and my mind, and made my life a total shit and destroyed it. I think that's quite enough motivation to stop.
We are quick to blame porn for all the worries in the world but my psyc told me addicts whetger it is porn, heroin or tobacco are all addicts because they have unaddressed mental health issues. So whilst I have had an extremely negative experience with PMO etc I realise now that my inability to cope with life is what is causing me to be addicted and NOT porn itself... now don't get me wrong I don't like porn or want it in my life but I thought it was interesting to discuss.
Shame and guilt The mentality that I could do everything by myself. Dead inside. No energy to pursue my interest. Feeling like theres something wrong with me
What you say is right, it's not porn, or alcol or drugs, it's the psychological issues that we have from our childhood. The thing is, we use porn, or drugs, to escape from those feelings. Now the question is, do we want to numb ourselves with porn more and more, or cut out porn and face up those issues and solve them?
That is just a theory (or a hypothesis), since i doubt its proven. People are more resilient that you think. I blame porn 100 %, because its a process that feeds itself and creates more and deeper mental issues. It really messes up your dopamine receptors AND pathways. It is better to deal with the obvious and current problems, than seek and handle old mental issues.
I’m sure this habit is responsible for some of the above but I’m scratching my head at how it causes “type 2 diabetes”. That is an absolutely absurd, ridiculous statement.
I think the worst thing about porn, is that it totally changed my idea of women and communicating with them. Maybe it was porn that made me even more isolated from women. It's such a big difference - how women behave in porn and in reality, and for someone like me, maybe this difference will never be reduced. So I did not have any emancipation and success with women in reality, but at the same time from an early age lived a secret life of addicted person. My "secret room" was porn and masturbation. It was kind of an outlet. I ran away there from a normal life in which I had no contact with women. For a short time, I saw men and women enjoying the intimacy (in porn), and it gave me the illusion of belonging to them. I've been getting the emotions I've been missing (and still am) in reality. Pornography is not to blame. So am I. But perhaps the abstinence from it will be a decisive step for me that will change my life. I hope so.