I'm asking because i firmly believe watching "boy-girl" porn is much worse and damaging than watching solo female porn. But that doesn't mean the latter is ok to use, it's more like smoking a regular cigarette as opposed to smoking crack cocaine. I'm asking because in my case i noticed i was getting aroused *more* by watching women get f%% then by watching solo women, which is very disturbing. I talked a lot about how the experience of masturbating while watching others have sex is extremely wrong and NEW (this was something virtually unheard of until a few decades ago) and i''m curious to see how affected people are, especially considering that nowadays "boy-girl" porn is 90% or more of the porn in existence. There's one more element that is even worse - the fact that a lot of porn is interracial. And this is not "racist" at all, it's just that if you are white and you see a black actor f$%ing the woman it's 100% obvious you're not him (and you're a cuckold/voyeur), or vice-versa (if it's a black guy watching a white porn actor). The color difference makes it impossible to "identify" as him. Arguably you will never be able to properly identify with anyone, it's just that there are degrees of identification. I will want to make a separate topic later looking for differences in compulsive masturbation between people that watch(ed) women solo and people that watched intercourse. I assume that the ones that watched intercourse were more prone to extreme compulsions (multiple times per day) and/or much more times per week than the others. In the meantime, you're welcome to share your thoughts. Especially if you think b/g scenes made you escalate in use (more masturbations/day)
I started with solo-female then girl on girl and as the years went by I ended with some real boy-girl fucked up shit.
I could watch and browse intercourse videos but only masturbated to solo female videos. I can't get off if there is a male in my view. Though when I was a lot younger I did masturbate to normal intercourse videos, but they turned into solo content as I grew older.
Do you feel like your porn use escalated after watching b/g scenes? As in, do you think that was your tipping point? I think that's great and normal actually, to be disturbed by a male being there. Did you have sexual relationships and do you think that helped you stay away? Did your porn use escalate after moving to b/g? As in more masturbations/day?
When I first saw it I was naturally repelled by any scenes with a dude. Later in teens through mid-20s I watched guy/girl and fetish genres. However, in the last 2 years of back-to-back NoFap attempts, it has been 90% solo-female. While I want to stop this altogether, I do believe that if relapses happen, the most 'vanilla' porn will do the least damage. For what it's worth, on my last relapse I looked at a guy/girl scene for the first time in months, and it quickly turned me off lol. I am taking this as a sign of my sexual interests becoming more true to my desires again.
Could you describe what the escalation was? In my case it was much more masturbation per day and for much longer times. I think the problem is our brain learned that sex = seeing the woman get f$% by another male... So this is definitely wrong and disturbing but by masturbation (pleasure) we cope with the negative feelings that arise. But the more we watch the more we need to masturbate to forget we watched. I think that's much healthier. Could you describe why do you think you never got into b/g porn? Exactly. Me too. I was very disturbed and i actually went and masturbated/ejaculated in another room (bathroom). Why do you think you escalated?
@ultrafabber I haven't had sexual relationships yet in my life. But I will say that I've been liked by girls ever since I was 5 years old. I've never felt inferior to other men/boys in this matter. I've never had a thought that I couldn't be with those females in videos and other men could be. It's an alien-like thought to me. This is mainly why I didn't enjoy male-female videos. To me it seems like many men in a way admire the males in the videos, that's why they can tolerate seeing them. I've always had this competitive feeling in me, masturbating and "admiring" another male having sex would be like accepting that he is somehow better than me. When I was just a little kid, I didn't think about it like this. As I grew older, this competitiveness became more intense and I started to only look at female videos. It wasn't conscious, it just isn't natural for me to enjoy looking at a man and woman having sex, it's just bizarre to me.
Yeah I've also sometimes felt disgusted when seeing certain men with certain women. And yes getting laid is a work in progress for me. It will come later, there are things that need to be done first. I'm glad you have also seen the darkness in porn.
I wanted the high and distraction of porn to last longer. So instead of 5 mins of PMO, it would usually be an hour or a few hours of searching for vids and pics. But in the last few years I have realised how the constant pursuit of novelty makes porn get worse. I kept looking for more bizarre content. Then I consciously decided to at least stop that part, and concentrated on solo-female only. And the goal is to finally let go of that as well, and concentrate on improving my life and hopefully attracting real women to it lol.
I was both all the time. No preference was dominant. Neither is safer, neither is worse. Some body types are more common in solo that are not present in other types but otherwise I dont recognize any major "effect" differences. By better or worse I just mean more addictive. Obviously there are degrees or objective "worsness".