my goal is 90 days full reboot, but to say I got this far (40 days) is crazy to think about. I’ve been really tempted to talk to girls just to have sex w them and that has been my biggest challenge so far! Any help on that? I can’t tell the difference between an actual relationship or a lustful desire. I haven’t had sex or I haven’t M in 40 days. No wet dreams no nothing, not sure what’s up but this is something that I’ve been challenging for about 8 years now and I’m sick of it. I want to talk to someone, but I have a feeling it’s a motive for sex and that’s not good
@Jack002 There are definitely real benefits. I did a 35 day streak and then relapsed. When I was not on PM, I had so much better sex with my girlfriend. I could keep up a hard erection when she was getting off and it didn't feel much for me. I could ejaculate again when penetrating. Before I couldn't it was so hard and sometime I even had to fantasies porn really hard to even keep it hard inside her. On the none sexual part. I felt I had more control over myself. Had more time to do productive stuff. Could focus better and this cloudy mind was starting to clear up. When I relapsed, I lost control over my time and what I wanted to do with it. My mind was clouding up again. we decided I should do PMO, so sadly we are not having sex anymore till I hit 90 days. (So fingers crossed) Anyway, it will probably be different with you. But it took 2-3 weeks till I could feel a difference. So hang in there and carry on.
Hey @FailingForward I am not an expert but I guess if you just want to have sex because someone looks good, without even talking to them. When you talk with a girl and you are aroused by her personality, intelligence, world view, you name it. Then this might end up into a relation. I hope this kind of helps.
Yes, I have more of a man feeling to me, and I reach out to more girls w out a worry and rejection doesn’t seem as bad because confidence is still high
Do what feels right for you. If you are focus on the girls body and just wanna sleep with her then its lust. Be careful tho, because orgasming during sex can reduce some benefits although it is still Better than PMOing. Depends on your goals really...
Firstly good luck, secondly, according to my experience when i did 90 days NO PMO, i came to a moment where i really wanted to have sex with any girl, let's say horny as fuck, but, this feeling is just a temporary feeling, don't pay attention to it, try to ignore do some activity, eventually it will disappear, and practising this will make it easier by the time, don't ever let ur brain to trick u to watch porn again, u already know it's shit, just avoid it, gl
Having the feeling of needing to procreate is natural, that’s good man! But that feeling can also turn into lust quite easily from my experience. Learn to channel that sexual drive to do things in life because it’s important to have a outlet to use for releasing your urges, stress and frustration. I wish u best of luck my friend
Exactly that kind of lustful and primitive feelings about a girl during nofap is nothing else than fantasizing about P... That's at least my opinion