Hello guys, male 21 years old from Indonesia here! i am finally one month passed leaving this shitty habit (watching P and do M to get an O) since then my life changed: 1. No more craving for P or M, but O from real girl 2. More focus 3. I can work well with my exam 4. My relationship with everyone is getting better 5. Fortune keeps coming to me 6. Sex drive increased usually at night and morning 7. Usually head down while walking, now always head up 8. Finally had a wet dream after many years It is a sad journey because i have a deppresion or what they call flatline in my first week, i start visiting andrologist and he gave me anti deppresant and vitamin for my brain. I tell my mother and my relative that she is a phsycologist. I am grateful i have a kind family. After 2 weeks, i just realized that P or M pleasure is just an illusion. You dont need it, you need sex partner: real girl/women! I will definitely keep this commitment! gonna marry next year or 2 years from now. I promised to myself that i will give my future wife a great sex life. My patience will be paid, InsyaAllah <- you can use my motivation as your motivation too brother here some tips: 1. Dont be afraid to talk to ur family or close friend 2. Pray 3. Go to gym, do some workout 4. Studying or read a book(not 21+ of course) 5. Visit an andrologist or pshycologist. It helps a lot 6. Say this to yourself when u have an urge: this is for ur wife/future wife, she has a right to be fucked by you. Not to jerking off and waste sperm that must be given to ur wife to breed an offspring. Your wife/future wife has a right to be given a best quality sperm and best sex life that given by you
Nice man. 1.Remember that if you do PMO, you will lose all your ability earned. And it's your life, your life is precious, don't waste it. It's have great value. 2. 30 days of no PMO ≠ to 1m30 of PMO. 30 days is 30 x 24 = 720 hours = 720 x 60 = 43 200 minutes x 60 = 2 592 000 seconds So 2 592 000 seconds > 95 seconds. 2 592 000 seconds ≠ 95 seconds.
great post, man! It inspires me, I have never seen it from that perspective. Its evident you want to give your future wife the love she deserves. Godspeed! I have been struggling to get to 30 days for months!
Assalaamu Alaykum, May Allah reward you for your struggle. I'm glad I came across this because one thing I struggle with is knowing I will have a future wife but being impatient. Just wondering if you have the same problem being Muslim and how to deal with it. For other people the increased libido is a benefit but I hate it because it's hard for me to control and we have to control it. Have you got any techniques? I deleted instagram and YouTube too even though I didn't want to.
Waalaykumussalam just say it repetitively what i type in last pargaraph brother, repetitively saying a word will become ur mindset automatically i quit instagram and twitter about 3 weeks and it works, because their filter is so shitty. Yes being a muslim means u cant fwb and hire prostitute to fulfill your lust. Only your wife allowed to do so
P and M is not life, but an O from real sex is to breed another life you can do it brother! hope you can hold the urge!! Keep fighting!