I've been at risk and if i recall i did just once. But since i no longer have a computer in my room and only have a laptop which i will only use outside of my room the risk is significantly lower. More than relapsing i've felt quite uneasy these days, reason why i try to find anything to do at home.
I haven't relapsed due to the Covid-19 crisis but i fully understand it's making a challenging task even more challenging. I can't speak for anyone else but i have made a choice that i will not use Covid-19 as an excuse to engage in PMO. Sure it would bring me some short-term relief from being stuck at home more than normal and worrying if i will still be employed in a months time but after the act the Covid-19 situation will be exactly the same and all my issues will still be there. In past i have turned to PMO to relieve my stress or unhappiness or my boredom or my feeling of a lack of pleasure in my life and it has never bought me any long term happiness. It's not the answer for a happy life in the long-term. Maybe instead at looking at Covid-19 as a reason to relapse you can say to yourself if i can survive this horrible time and all that it entails then i can survive anything without turning to PMO as an escape or stress relief etc etc. Good-luck and let's hope life returns to normal for everyone sooner than later.
I have used it as an excuse to myself and relapsed, but I think I was just lazy and weak. Time to remember why I am doing this and be more firm in my determination.
Made it over 500 days and then I relapsed this week, I live in Canada and we’re basically locked in our houses but really that’s not an excuse. I’m pretty socially isolated with what’s going on in the world right now and I really just gave into my triggers, which are checking out chicks on Instagram, checking out actresses and tv women and after about two weeks of fooling myself about that I relapsed. It’s only been two times this week But I really want to stop this before it becomes habitual again. I’m feeling ok just really suffering from being so isolated.
A year and a half ago my life was a mess I was broken, I was addicted to porn but I managed to make big strides which I felt good about what bothers me right now is this why did I go back to a way that was just the opposite of what I wanted. I loved not being part of pornography yet I fooled Myself. So yes it is the uncertainty that is bothering plus the loss of my sober lifestyle that I was living. especially the gym.
I understand. Is there a way of being ok in the time of uncertainty? Remember it is not about streaks but it is all about knowing thyself. Know yourself and you win every battle.
I’ve relapsed recently not sure if I can blame covid-19 but being at home with a new routine hasn’t helped me. It has added new stress that I should have anticipated and dealt with more appropriately.
Oh yeah. The lockdown has made this really difficult. Since my office closed (but we can still work from home) I moved back to my parents place for the time being. It can get quite boring here, especially since I can't see my gf. I feel like I need to create a lockdown routine.
Yup routine for me is critical and I need to be better at creating and planning a routine when things change.
Standing still for me is not good, I found that one of the keys in my 18 month streak was that I had goals that I was working towards, this morning signed up to take a new course online that I’m interested in, it will benefit me in my career and help me get through this time.
hi..i just joined yesterday and i’ve already relapsed. i don't know what happened but i lost control and i am trying to recover. this pandemic period isn't making anything better cause i am just indoors with nothing to do. help me
Yes. Stress is a major trigger for me and one of my main methods of coping with extreme urges - go outside, go somewhere public and full of people - has been taken away from me. So I am having to come up with all new coping strategies under my new circumstances. Being around my family all the time should help, but in reality it's a big enough house that we spend a fair bit of time apart, as one of us has to look after the baby.
As usual, I thought I was fine. I wasn't even feeling particularly horny. Just turned on the computer and relapsed in seconds. Once, twice, then almost a third time. The problem is me! I cannot make excuses.
I fear I have lost the fire. I say I want to quit but my actions say something very different. I have no other excuses. Much as I hate cliches, it's as simple as this: I talk the talk but I don't...you know. Too many guys come on nafap, make big declarations about how they are going to be a new men, then they fail again and again. Eventually, they are not to be seen again here. I don't want to be one of those guys, but unless I kick some ass here - my own - I am fucked.
Your desire to quit needs to be a 10 ( on the scale from 0 to 10) , anything less is a waste of time. As for relapsing, it is a golden opportunity to know yourself. understand your psychological triggers.