I know maybe it’s not a big deal, I know other people's problems are worse, but I started a next challenge and I failed twice. After one day. I can't understand, why... I feel awful with it, it makes me depressed and not worthy person. I know it’s not true, it’s not rational. Maybe I think about it to much. My problem isn’t porn, because I don’t watch any porn videos, but I think about sex and fantasize a lot… It’s horrible for me… Have you got any tips for thinking less about sex??? Maybe I should just stop thinking? It’s sound stupid… But it’s not easy at all. There's a lot of stuff to do... I can get distracted. But when these thoughts come to me... how do I deal with them? sorry for my English btw
Take a big breath and quit them ,start daily mindfulness exercises , that's the key to control your thoughts. You can find on line a lot of information and different techniques to do mindfulness
I found the Wim Hof Method of Breathing. I will try to do this for the beginning. Have you got similar problems to mine? Do you practice mindfulness? I endured 12 days of abstinence and it was hard for me, but I felt better after it. Now I had relapse and I fell guilty and awful with myself. I want to be free of this...
Im familiar with Wim Hof. Very good. I would suggest the breathing and minfullness. Its a rewiring of sorts. I was amazed myself at least how images stuck in my brain yet it makes sense. It took me awhile to say this to myself honestly but Ive seen violence in my life a bit. From a young age and then just normal(I felt) street kid sh*t. I can see how our minds compartmentalize that. Its the same w/ porn. Our brains are like cameras. Im visual as is,so Ill capture and retain. What helpsme is realizing triggers. Dont be around them.
Thank You for good advice. I'm a total beginner in mindfulness, so I'll try to explore this topic a bit. It seems to be helpful and useful thing.
Solution: Think about something else. Stay busy, Spend more time with your work/Studies. And slowly, learn to not give a shit about those Spoiler: Triggering! Ti**, Asses, And what not! You got this. You’re asking the correct question man.
I jus masturbated iv been trying to go for a year but i leep messing up i could say i masturbate 4 times a month and i always feel guilty soon after i ejaculate i tryed my hardest to go a whole month but it feels impossible due to the fact as a week passes i feel the urge to since im not in a relationship. Or have any sexual partners i then k tell my self i wont due it again the a week later its the same routine
And have a lot of free time ima already been working out to keep me busy but once im home alone i always have that urge
Maybe you should try a shorter streak? A week, two weeks or three? Maybe it would be easier for you and when you achieve one goal you will be ready for the next? Achieving even a short goal will make you feel more self-confident and satisfied. It’s also more likely to reach. Going for a year, while you masturbate four times a month may prove imposible for you at the moment. Whereas, if you try a shorter break and live up to your expectations, you'll build some self-discipline. And it'll certainly pay you back in terms of well-being, and achieving a longer goal won't only be easier, but also possible.