Tried everything from cold showers to distraction, After relapsing on day 7 i have been relapsing everyday for over a month now,help
It is a big relapse... But don't worry. I suggest you to turn off all of your devices for a couple of days. During this two days, go outside every time you can, get tired by doing workout, don't go to bed if you aren't ready to sleep. You can do this!
Hi!, Dont Give Up! You can do that, but when you relapsed, you need more motivation to lift your spirit. And, you need to fight that brain, i meant, you really need to fight that. When you have urges, say this to your brain 'Am i gonna do this?! Have sex with my own hand?! with pixels? Just for 5 seconds of joy?!' Remember the bad cycle, MAsturbation - Depression - Masturbation (again and again). PMO, Will not help you go trough your depression, it will make that worse. You can live without PMO, you can do this bro!
Well i can't actually do that since my school life revolves around a gadget and i can't really go anywhere due to covid, but conviniently I'm on day 2 right now, lets see how this is gonna go, also that last piece of advice makes so much sense, thank you
There have been days when i'd say the same thing to myself,even stuff like "are you seriously gonna give away your entire life for 10-30 minutes of fake pleasure" but even then i'd end of relapsing soon after,as of writing this i finnaly got a 1 day streak and im on day 2 right now,lets see how this goes
I've been wondering about that since forever,sometimes i think i started out of curiosity and then got addicted cuz of the pleasure and other times i think there's still a hidden meaning a hidden feeling that im suppressing by porn and other outlets,i can never seem to figure out what though,as a child (when i started) i suffered from loneliness but that is nowhere near the case note that I'm in my teens so I don't think that's the reason
Hi How is it going? After you relapse there's no need for regrets or shame, just start again. Now I understand, you are a student, so am I. It's complicated, I know. Try to diminish the use of electronic devices, if they are a source of temptation. But if your triggers come from other things, it is not necessary. And you don't need to go where there are people, I mean go outside of your house, go to your backyard or go for a walk to some empty streets wearing a mask. That is very helpful whenever the strong urges come.
My trigger is boredom and being alone in a room with internet,although gadgets are not even close to a trigger for me,i'll try going out and see if that works And a relapse isn't as serious for me as other people,to me its just giving in
Update 1.5 months later,manages to get a few days of streaks,with many many relapses in between, currently on day 1 after relapsing multiple times a day for god knows how long
First, keep yourself busy and that will end your boredom. I have lots of activities besides being online. I read books, I walk and feed the dog, I listen to music on either Pandora or Spotify, I spend time with my partner. I have spent the last few months talking politics on Facebook trying to get Joe Biden elected. That for sure kept me busy. Relapse shouldn't be an opportunity to beat ourselves up. When we relapse, we should take time to determine what triggered the relapse and finding a way to get rid of the trigger or block it. I spend time either weekly or monthly going through that week and determining any potential triggers, even if I haven't relapsed. It is kinda like finding a couple of bugs in a program and spending time fixing them. Then we can return to start a new streak. Relapses are simply a learning experience if you let them. I have not relapsed yet but I have to admit my father dying today almost drove me to relapse as fapping to porn would release some energy and help me relax. I chose not to do it and instead listen to Christmas music and taking care of some personal business. I also reached out to friends on Facebook for support AND I've decided to start counseling or therapy. I have my first session on December 21st. I will reach out to the therapist and put me on a waiting list in case an earlier time pops up.
Its hard for me to do anything,i get distracted extremely easily and can't do any single thing for too long,keeping myself busy is extremely hard
I'm wondering. Do you have ADHD? I do and either I get myself too busy and start ignoring other stuff I need to do OR I just can't get out of bed. I have ADHD and depression among other things. It does sound like you have ADHD (Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder). Might want to have a doctor test you for that. That adds an entirely new wrinkle to going no-PMO.