Acted out a porn fantasy

yes.

i'm still in recovery stage. therapy and venting here helped me to some extent.

 

I think its super weird that what we THINK we want, and what we ACTUALLY want are so different. Kinda makes me question everything

 

i dont think even porn stars enjoy what they do on screen. most of it is brutal.

 

I cant even think straight when i heard my friend husband is go far away to another city

In my porn mind u knew what this sort of thing led to

But in the actual life,, its not that big deal and they have healthy and happy relationship

Porn messes my mind

 

No thankfully not, but like that's what happens with porn it just like creates lust and you can only manage lust for so long before you're out pursuing encounters, its just best to take time for yourself put systems in place and like distance from porn

 

They'll say that over and over and over again.

It's acting - not real - and generally they get no pleasure mentally or physically.

 

What's helped me in recovery is understanding WHY they have stage names which I never questioned before...I just thought "oh to stop stalkers or something" but digging deep I think part of it is to compartmentalize and say "oh its my porn persona doing it not me" if you think about it that way it makes a lot of sense...its rare that a performer uses their real name I think for that reason, and its all a show I feel even the performers who claim to "love it" are just doing so to get more work, since they're now pigeonholed into porn and the industry

 

I have yet to read an interview with a performer who left the industry with good things to say. Drugs, physical abuse, rapes, low pay, etc etc etc. A lot of people then say "well amateur stuff is different". But there is very little true amateur stuff - most of it is professionally made to look that way.

 

literally nobody does, its just a cesspool of riff raff and shady business dealings, and I'll say this not EVERYONE in porn is bad news but most are, and how it operates isn't right, there's SOME ethical companies but as a whole its just not good, and the end product by nature is addictive, its ruled by a shady monopoly, performers aren't protected or paid well, they literally CANNOT make a living off of shoots alone which should tell you something, many have side hustles like OnlyFans or premium Snapchats...they're famous but not rich by any means...

Look at what happened to Ron Jeremy biggest male star ever, the poster child for porn and he gets arrested and charged with multiple counts of sexual assault...and its in story after story, trafficking, on set abuse, nobody has anything good to say once they leave if they're still in porn they'll praise it all day long...

Truth is porn is part of a free society adults have the choice to consume it or not but what's worse is minors often don't and are being exposed to it early leading to lifelong addicts as its not like drugs or smoking where its clear to never start, or drinking where its important to do so in moderation and responsibly, there's no such thing as responsible porn viewing

 

I had so many bad things happen and so little good things that sometimes I even pretend things didn't happen as they're happening...That's my coping mechanism....but it works for me, I just don't care.
When I was addicted to porn I just had to do certain things at some point. Spent lots and lots of money, did some crazy stuff but the important thing for me is that my fetishes are gone now.

 

It is possible to imagine drug cartel that pays their workes well and do not commit any other crimes, but considered what they produce it is hard to say that such buisness is truly ethical. I thing porn is similar.

If there is no such thing as responsible porn consumption then why not just ban it? Many more dangerous substances are banned. There is this argument that "it would not be effective" but realistically no ban can fully eradicate anything, we have still lots of crime going on. Why in the western world and especially in the USA freedom of speech is this single right that is considered absolute with very few exceptions by so many people? Your right to live isn't absolute because government can draft you to army and force to risk your life. The primary goal of freedom of speech is to prevent government from censoring political debate and controlling voters, and even this is limited in some countries because bans on fascist, nazi or communist propaganda exists. Ban on porn if done right may have many potential benefits and it does not takes away any essential liberties that truly matter. If gun people were like free speech activists they would advocate for privately owned nuclear weapons.

 

Actually less and less dangerous substances are being banned - for example my state just legalized marijuana.

I don't think porn should be banned. However I do think it needs to be categorized as a dangerous item and be educated about like cigarettes, alcohol, etc.

 

I think for most porn users it is not addiction in strict sense but use is habitual. My therapist have not classified me as addicted, he said my porn use is a habit I can't break with. Porn in that matter is very similar to smoking, there are many smokers who do not smoke that often, but breaking a habit is very hard. Despite I wasn't technically addicted, my porn consumption was too low, I experienced many negative symptoms like escalation to more extreme generes and fetishes and hocd.

 

Marijuana is less harmful to health than nicotine (very bad habits of many potheads are a different story) so it is not anything more dangerous than what we already have.

 

Your therapist is wrong. One of the characteristics of habitual use is no tendency to increase the dose. That's really not the case with porn where pretty much everyone complains of escalation. Even if the time spent with it doesn't change the content viewed becomes more extreme.
And I really wouldn't say there are no withdrawal symptoms or they are small.

 

Yes, escalation is ignored in diagnosing addiction, time spent and habit harming other fields of life are main factors in diagnosis.

Definitely there are withdrawal symptoms.

 

It is unfortunate that this quote contains the j-word, because people will shrug it off as crazy conspiracy theory talk without thinking about the porn industry.

There is a lot of resentment towards decency in broadly speaking "porn community" or sex positive circles. One of the things that I noticed about BDSM community was a very large amount of satanic or anti-religious imaginery and symbolism. And no, most of those people aren't satanists, even laveyan atheist satanists, they are edgelords, BDSM is not a conspiracy. But it tells a lot about attitude. I think that lots of those people is aware that they are harming themselves or others. Porn creators are more or less aware that they are exploiting people with various personal issues. Belle Delphine made was referencing miserable state of her "fans". Many people are saying that she is smart for using idiots but it is alarming that there are so many people willing to pay insane money for such things.