I'm 32. I turn 33 in july. I am on vacation in a place with beautiful women all around me. I take two antidepressants - viibryd and wellbutrin. Was on viibryd. I tried to be intimate with a woman before and it wasn't working...ive had this issue since I was 19 and started this. At that point I had a spiral into depression and anxiety. I was prescribed the wellbutrin and I still feel terrible. My performance still sucks. I see these women when I am out by the beach and I feel nothing. I don't get aroused. I'm at a nice coffee shop, talking to a cute girl from Venezuela (latin women are my kryotinite) and nothing. I have family tell me I need to be on them. I am sick of it. Even when I am on them, I do not feel right. when I sleep I get the nocturnal erections. Ever since starting my streak like always, I had a couple days where I had some kind of erections and boom it dies. But I just feel dead even with the antidepressants. I dont wake up with a morning wood. Only if i lay in my bed and like fantasize or if I pmo which is not an option now. I'm such a shitty human being for doing this habit and for ever touching my dick aside from washing it. I look at this cafe and no one else feels that way. So I'm either putting pressure on myself. No "walking hard ons" as I think we are built to be. I'm just done guys. My mind tells me I can never reproduce.
Stop taking the pills? I know that it might be hard at first but they are making you a shell of what you really are, numbing your emotions - even the good ones. God bless you.
Hey man, i was just like you, it’s depressing and scary because you miss feeling normal and feelsnlike you’re stuck like this. I used to be exactly like that, see hot girls, nothing. Would even look at guys, nothing. But show me so material or fantasise about bottoming with a guy and I’d be super turned on. all this just reflects a really dysfunctional libido and amxiety network in your brain, its rewired in an unhelpful and dysfunctional way. it does improve and you can get back to normal, but you have to move forwards not backwards, cut out all the bad habits and work towards that, roll with the setbacks as relapses are common at first. then address any emotional baggage you may have, i had to address a couple of issues that caused me to have sever anxiety and I’m ok with them now - this was the hardest and longest part. step 3 be kind and gentle with yourself, love yourself and forgive your self and find somone you have connection with, and the rest will follow good luck
This is not accurate. I do not know where you got this information/impression from. Do some reading into Vilazodone and Bupropion and you will see that your comments are incorrect.
They are not the cause of this. The cause is the years of masturbation to high speed internet porn. This will take many months of abstinence before your brain can reboot to 'factory settings', if you will.
Okay, I just assumed that they work the same that every mood medication. I still stand behind not taking these pills since they cause problems to the user as mentioned. I do agree that PMO is also a reason, just as you said. It possibly can also be the only reason for the problems. I do still think that the medicine is not a full time cure for problems since usually these sorts of problems root deep from persons past. Just my opinion though from my experiences. God bless you.
Also to add, any research done to these is bias since it is done by the company it self. Even tobacco was recommended once since it was backed up by so much money and the negative effects took years on consumption to form so that it is evident to everyone. They are going to deny everything bad until it is evident. I am not saying that they can not help people - I am sure that the medicine can, but they come with side effects on longer use since it is literally fighting against the bodies normal hormonal balance to make it seem okay. There is so much that we do not know about human body and psychology. Sure we have come a long way, there is still so much to be known. Sorry for the rant.
sadly this sounds extremely difficult and like i am beyond repair. i should stay off dating apps too, huh?
Recovering from any addiction is extremely difficult. You have to really want to stop or you will always make excuses. IMO, yes, because they will trigger your urges to masturbate and use porn.
You are not shitty. What happened can't be changed. You can only change your future and we all see that you're willing to do so. You located your problem and decided to work on it, this is great! And probably there was nobody who gave you this advice, because you told him of your habits, am I right? To this point you did it by yourself. There are so many guys out there who are not even able to do what you did. Your mind telling you to give up, is that monkey in your head who wants his PMO back. He's trying to trick you, by absorbing hope. Now it's up to you who will win. Everything that triggers you, turn it off. If you ask yourself if something is ok to look at, it is almost 100% sure that it's not ok.
My main concern is - not that I will recover from the addiction. That's one thing. It's curing PIED that I am concerned with.
Because the ED is PI, then you need to abstain from P + M + O to get back to normal functioning. So, overcoming the addiction will achieve both outcomes.
So what about the rewiring to normal women? That seems more difficult than the addiction itself? Or am I wrong there?
This will happen as part of the process. Rewiring to women in real life will happen, you will overcome your PIED and you will reboot from the addiction. It is not easy, but the benefits are awesome!
Yes, I have not relapsed for nearly two years. It took me 5 years of starting and stopping up to then, so not easy. I am now 55.
I just read a bit in your journal. Someone wrote that your ED is probably not p induced (anymore). Seeing how long you stayed off of p, I would say the same. Getting nervous when it's getting serious will kill your erection very effective. I know that.
