Guys, I wonder if it's just me, or if anyone else goes through this. Before my nofap, I didn't feel guilty or frustrated after PMO. After I give up watching porn and meeting nofap, it seems to me that I'm doing something very wrong during relapses. I got into a vicious cycle of frustration, guilt and self-loathing. How do I get out of this black hole? Has anyone been through this?
It happened to me as well, all the time in fact. Think about it like this, I'm more ashamed than before when I slip because I'm taking this nofap thing seriously, otherwise I wouldn't give a fuck, right? If you think about it like this, you can use the frustration to fuel you even more. Best of luck to you, my brother
every addict that realize he has a problem. There are studies that show that addiction is only harmful if you believe it is, that being said i also hear that it can cause hypofrontality(but haven't yet seen a definitive study on the subject), in general guilt-ripping is useless as long as you keep trying you are on the right track but there are people here that have 500+ days and still relapse every now and then, do not be hard on yourself focus instead on the improvement between said streaks(and don't binge).
Matar la conciencia, no es el camino, hay q educarla, Nuestro Cerebro se nutre siempre, cambiando el P, el se deberá a adaptar a vivir sin el... Sigamos luchando
Two steps. When considering what people have to say about it to "support", beyond the "I feel your pain" sympathizing, ask then HOW the person has gotten whatever degree of success, and what that success consists of. If you look at it this way, you'll probably see a lot of the stuff posted on this kind of forum is only about the first step. All that tells us is they have the same general goal, but if their how is kind of dysfunctional and they don't even recognize there's a problem, you may very well get more negative than positive influence even if there's a bit of both. Beyond positive vs. negative, ask yourself do they seem to know anything about basic human psychology? A lot of the people into this is approaching it from a very simplistic mindset, the basic concepts of a vicious cycle and self-loathing may hardly be in their vocabulary.
I know how you feel bro Its coz we really want to stop but are severely addicted Lets make this never happen again
Believe it or not, you do not need to feel guilt or any of those emotions. So you relapsed, okay. It's not the end of the world. We have all been there. You are a good person with a problem. Simple as that. Yes, you want to be a better person and to do that it involves leaving PMO behind. It is difficult, but you can do it. Don't waste time on negative emotions. Indulging in them is the quickest route back to relapsing.
Relapse is the side effects of any addiction, Years of habit formed require time to heal. love yourselfForgive yourself. Believe in God if you can.