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Long streak loneliness

Discussion in 'Loneliness' started by VVULFGVNG, Mar 30, 2022.

  1. Mar 30, 2022 #1
    VVULFGVNG

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    I've been on my longest streak since I was 18. Started earlier this month with the help of my therapist and with finding a challenging job working with horses.
    But as I've started to get out of the addiction, and coming out of isolation I'm in one part feeling more connected but in another hand feeling even lonelier then before. Now I'm aware that my PMO addiction was covering for my feelings of isolation and loneliness and I no longer have that coping mechanism. But damn it's been very painful lately.
    I have this constant feeling of inadequacy, not being good enough, not being tall enough, not being muscular enough, not making enough money, being in debt. Coupled with the addiction withdrawal symptoms it's been kicking my ass lately. I have seen the up side though. Its been getting better, my social anxiety is not anywhere as bad or noticeable for an example.
    Now parts of this for sure have alot to do with adverse childhood experiences and trauma, it's par for the course when it comes to any addiction model including PMO.
    I know there's more to life and my specific experience than what I'm currently living through. But God damn dude this sucks!

    I currently just work, it's the first time that I've really gotten out of my shell since the beginning of covid. Covid really fucked my life up, not so much the disease but the state enforced lock down and the following mental health issues that arose from being alone in a brand new state going to a school with very little friends and being in my mid twenties.

    I don't want to be alone anymore.
     
    VVULFGVNG, Mar 30, 2022
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  2. Mar 30, 2022 #2
    Maverick_giant

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    Hey man! Same shit, I am also on retention and I feel lonely right now even though I am mostly busy throughout the day but as soon as I come home I feel this deep sense of loneliness. I crave intimacy and a real relationship with women. It's good to know that I am not alone who feel like this. And I guess we both had to figure out this shit. Good luck!
     
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  3. Mar 30, 2022 #3
    MitchA

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    The only way you aren't alone anymore is if you make it happen. There is no secret ingredient or recipe that will fix it.

    Sounds like you got rid of PMO. Sounds like you already started fixing it. But you can't just quit it and then expect other things to happen. Surely you do SOMETHING with someone out in the world...like work.

    I didn't get caught up in covid as badly. But...I did move to a new state and new job. I had severe social anxiety in situations...and I am extremely introverted (and probably on the spectrum somewhere...and I'm not saying that as a joke). One day I realized everyone I work with was kind of in the same social boat...or lack of one. I began insisting we scheduled a 'shift outting' once a month. And it worked.

    One thing that starts taking effect as you get older is the realization that you're not unique in just about anything. There are people all around you..there...where you are physically at...that have the same feelings. Instead of getting blue about it, perhaps step up and start leading. And you deserve to lead....you're the one who's put the hammer down on PMO in your life.

    Also, think about this. You want a partner in your life right? You want to share your life with someone? Well...how can you share it with someone when you yourself aren't satisfied with it? DO something about it. You have the strength to.
     
    MitchA, Mar 30, 2022
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  4. Mar 30, 2022 #4
    Yumiyumi

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    Totally agree with you. Better yet, get yourself a doll.
     
    Yumiyumi, Mar 30, 2022
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  5. Mar 31, 2022 #5
    LOSEmyselftoSAVEmyself

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    My friend, everybody suffers in a reboot. If you pay the cost to improve your life, glean all the benefits. Get your whole life in order. Everything but chasing women. Don't worry about friends too much. Find a way to build your finances up. Research every kind of investment out there, find one that makes the most sense. Start a business. Find your dream career.

    You are going to have to fight, toil, suffer and be in pain to make it. Accept the challenge.

    You'll make it.
     
    LOSEmyselftoSAVEmyself, Mar 31, 2022
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  6. Mar 31, 2022 #6
    VVULFGVNG

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    This man gets it.
    I was researching options trading and stocks, and other forms of investing a few months ago, now I just need to brush up!
     
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  7. Mar 31, 2022 #7
    LOSEmyselftoSAVEmyself

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    Look into covered calls. Build something that is long term.
     
    LOSEmyselftoSAVEmyself, Mar 31, 2022
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  8. Apr 2, 2022 #8
    sam30

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    I have gone past 90 day nofap.. started to go out to town more to the food market store where there is loads
    Of people, but after that I feel lonely as I feel I am getting left out without a partner, however things started to get me going is taking picture of scenery..I have notice porn has paid a big part and wasted a lot of time
    For me
     
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  9. Apr 5, 2022 #9
    tigerstripes

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    Is this supposed to be funny? Because it’s not. It’s a pretty crappy thing to say to somebody who is struggling.
     
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  10. Apr 5, 2022 #10
    VVULFGVNG

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    I ignore low status males.
    I scrolled past it and chuckled, someone's projecting.
     
    VVULFGVNG, Apr 5, 2022
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