Hello, I feel like girls want nothing to do with me. I feel like girls can smell the loser in me lol. It sounds so childish at 25 years of age. I am terrified that my years of using porn has made me incapable of attracting the women that I want to attract. I am scared that it is too late or irreversible. I constantly hear that if I just stop looking at porn or masturbating for a while, then that might change. But you know how it goes, I end up doing it anyway. I'm so over this shit.
I am in the same situation friend. I can't remember the last time i had a 3 minutes conversion with a girl, i think it's been over 4 months. I can't approach them because i get the feeling they belittle me when i look into their eyes whenever i see one. Let us fight this thing, maybe things will get better in the future. Fight till the end.
you can reboot for sure, men in 30ies and 40ies do it, so you have no excuses, yes if you fap to p you will lack confidance and girls can pick it up like a fine tuned radar, you should't expect to be validated for mediocre choices, and in fact it is good that it is that way.
In my opinion, you need to start changing your perspective in life. Stop looking at the negatives and start reinforcing and creating positives. I bet when you wake up in the morning you immediately have thoughts like "I hate my life, I am a loser. I just want to stay in bed and sleep all day." You need to start thinking about the positive things in your life. Try starting your day by looking in the mirror and saying some positive things about yourself and speaking them out loud. It can be as easy "I'm alive. I have food to eat." Change your perspective and you'll start to change your outcomes.
Porn (or the lack of porn) is just one part of the equation. There's likely one issue or a few that are holding you back. You may have past emotional issues, many of us do. Or maybe it's a case of bad posture or not maintaining eye contact and offering a smile. Maybe a few girls show you interest but you don't pick up on their signals. They're often very subtle about it unfortunately. Only you can say what may need changing. But it's common for many of us to ignore real world growth while spending too much time on porn. When we then stop it, there's usually a bit of catch up. The good news is things can change around quite quickly with real world experiences. You'll learn a lot about women and yourself by just talking with them more