Hey everyone. I am on day 97 now. I never thought this is possible. I am not gonna lie to you guys and tell you it was easy. If you want to start this mission ... You are extremely BRAVE. You want to see change and you know something is missing.To reach day 5 ... To reach day 15 .. to reach day 90 and to reach day 200. You HAVE TO win a fight against yourself.You are more powerful than your brain, you can do this. I honestly thought this is not gonna work.There were days when I wanted to say f**k it, I give up because I didn't see the benefits. Thank God I didn't give up. There was a voice in my head telling me: "This is the right thing, don't give up". I am an honest person, I used to cry because I didn't see any change ... but I believed in myself. I wanted to do this as if my LIFE depends on it. After 30 days I said: "Time to be serious about this". I installed a blocker so I couldn't enter porn websites or any kind of dirty pictures on the internet and that is the NUMBER ONE thing to do. After 30 days, everything is a trigger but you have to find a way and disable any triggers you may encounter. Triggers will lead you to urges, strong urges and I was fighting with them and, believe me, that is not a fight you want to be in, but I was still stronger.Avoid any kind of triggers. Number 2. Plan your time I used to masturbate because I was bored. I wasn't even that horny to do it, but I did it. Now I see how much free time I actually have. Nobody is too busy, it's just a matter of priorities.One of the best youtube channels that helped me was "Be inspired". With motivation, you are two times more powerful than others. You can do it. Don't doubt yourself, I used to do that. It is making you go two steps back and you don't need that. GO FORWARD! Number 3. BE PATIENT There were times when I felt like giving up. There were times where I was about to do it ... BUT I DIDN'T. You have to be patient. Benefits don't come easy. You have to EARN them and when you do, you will find the real power, the real Alpha Male inside of you.If you are on day 20, you are already fighting, you have to be strong to win this fight. If you are on day 5 .. You are one of US too. You are becoming a better and stronger person. Do you think 15 seconds of orgasm is better than benefits you get? I promise You, you WILL get them, but you have to fight as if your life depends on it. EARN THEM !! When you eliminate the triggers, everything else will be much smoother but don't forget you are in war .. war with YOURSELF. Dear reader. I don't know you. I don't know what religion you are, I don't know where you come from, but I BELIEVE IN YOU! I had no motivation, no one to guide me, to tell me not to give up, but you DO. I am here for YOU. Talk to me, I will help you. Your good friend Shad0w. Follow me for more motivational threads or my life with NoFap in general.
Nice work, I am over 30 days and found the last few days pretty tough, things are getting a bit better now, and your post helped
Dear Man, I read your post and i love it, that inspired me much right now. I was close to relapse two times the last week, but like you said something inside me wasn't keen on giving up. Congratulation you made it to day 97 that is longer than any streak i ever had, but i want to make it to that level. May your life be the best one possible from now.
Thanks for your sharing. So, was it just sheer priority, determination, and willpower that worked for you? What very practical tools did you use along the way that I might consider putting in my toolbox. For instance, what did you do in times of physical withdrawal pains - like blue balls or throbbing or erections wanting attention? What did you do when the addict affected your mind and tried to seduce you with temptations to suspend your ethical decision making and succumb to his shadowy suggestions? How did you handle times of incessant imaginative sexual thoughts that you couldn't stop in the filed of your imagination? How did you handle life distractions on the street? How did you handle the pure boredom, but not of your time with nothing to do, but boredom with the whole path of recovery and wanting that one release? How did you handle the triggers? Any practical means and precise strategies in any or all of these areas would be helpful. Thanks,
Good summary. Point three has been the hardest for me so far. Simply having the patience is difficult. I have learned enough from this to know that I must be able to be patient in many areas of life and go for a delayed gratification approach if ever I want to succeed in my long term goals. Your number two option is a close second for me. I am a long ways away from being able to effectively plan my time and stick to it but the ideas are at least surfacing in my brain.
Great post. What benefits did you notice? I'm past 60 days and although I see subtle changes, I sometimes start to doubt why I'm doing this mainly because I've been in a flatline for a very long time now (by flatline I mean no libido whatsoever) and that is worrying to say the least. I'm doing everything I can to better myself - exercise, eating right, even started meditating. I do need to cut down on my internet time but what I'm trying to say is that I'm not only just doing nofap and waiting for results to fall into my lap. Yet, here I am, wondering when johnson will rise (no pun intended).
Thanks so much for this post! It inspired me to go further, push harder and fight as if my life is on the line. Thanks for the helpful tips, and the uplifting words. Hope to hear more from you
You just have to belive. If you are just sitting down and waiting for benefits to fall from the sky, I am sorry but it doesn't happen like that. One day you will just feel different, then take a paper or something and write down how u used to be and how are you know ... You will see that actually many things changed.
Planning time is not easy . I am not always using my time the right way but I AM using it enough so I don't think about fapping . Brother , I am with you , Don't give up. Your Shad0w
Thanks but you didn't read my post entirely it seems. I've made it a point to mention that that's exactly what I'm not doing i.e. sitting and waiting for benefits to come my way. On the contrary I've mentioned everything that I have been doing to be better.
hello shadow .... brother ur post was awesome ....its 28 days since i fapped but urges are getting stronger day by day.. mind tricks me often to continue the bad thing but somehow i finally stop myself to pmo.. read ur post now and it was indeed motivating .. thanks for sharing ur post and please share any further ideas or advice about how i can tackle the urges and the games that mind plays with me.. once again thank u very much..
Hey congrats brother i am on 9 day in 90 days commitment i have a question can i have sex with girl in these days
Just like a Shad0w, eh? A bit creepy I'm not gonna lie, but nice to know you are offering support I guess? Is that you in the avatar?