Hi there, Today's day 50 of my 90 day hard-mode goal. It's been a positive experience overall. A lot of new and wonderful things and people have come into my life since beginning the NoFap practice. I bought a farm and am in the process of starting a Re-Wilding and Equestrian Therapeutic center up there in the mountains of Colorado. I'm also doing further research and education into client-based sexual healing and tantric practices. I'm quite happy with the direction my life is going in. I feel relatively peaceful and calm much of the time. Depression, social anxiety, and irritability have all quieted down. My health, fitness, and ability to focus seem to be increasing almost daily. The effort this practice has taken has been well worth it thus far. I'm posting here in search of greater connection within this community. I first joined NoFap under the impression that this is a sex-positive forum. But I see far more highly religious, anti-sexuality, guilt-ridden, and woman-hating posts here than I could have ever anticipated. Men referring to women who are open and adventurous sexually as whores, and speaking hatefully of sex workers, quoting bible verses as they do so. Many of my friends are sex workers. I'm on the fringes of being a sex-worker myself- it's astoundingly powerful therapeutic work, work I'm proud to be doing in the world. I would love to connect with more sex-positive, like-minded people on here who are engaging with the NoFap practice as a way to enhance their sex life, who see NoFap as a way to celebrate their sexuality, not as an exercise in guilt, religiosity, or sex/body/woman-shaming. If sex and pleasure is something you believe should be celebrated, and that NoFap/brahmacharya is a pathway to honor this aspect of life, please hit me up! I'd love to meet more people with similar values to my own here. Peace and strength on your journey, whatever your reasons for it may be! ✌
First of all, I have to tell you that you are my idol ... having a rehab horse farm sounds like an incredible personal accomplishment. I congratulate you my friend. And I empathize with other ideas of yours, such as the fact that this challenge is a celebration of a full, healthy sexual life, rather than a religious motive. I am an 18 year old young man who for 3 (almost 4 years) has had a problem with his sexuality. I am in favor of scientific and useful ideas; like the fact that everyone can live their sexual life as they like, of course not abusing, all excess is harmful in the end. I want to get out of this challenge with a mastery of my being and knowledge on the subject to develop myself in the best possible way, not only personally but with anyone who is by my side.
Totally! I find that this is an extremely tiresome aspect of this website, and the main reason I occasionally leave for months after using it for a couple weeks, hoping things have changed.
I come back regularly, more often that that, but I see why you don't like to come on often. The guilt of religion is something I am reading about right now in The God Virus, by Darrel Ray. I recommend the book for anyone interested in the resemblance between religion and viral infection.