Alright,nim going in a 20 day break from today hopefully successful. If I really put my mind to it I know I won't do it but for some reason, I come back from school and it pops in my head then I do it. Anyway I could Avoid these thoughts and temptations? It literally just hits me
I used to be like you, thinking I wasn't addicted. Everyone on this forum is a little bit addicted, or else we wouldn't be here. Like NotAfraid said, stop lying to yourself and "put your mind to it" more often.
Be aware that "the urge" likes to sneak itself into your brain with exactly such thoughts like that. ("I am not an addict, I will just PMO once a little bit ..." ) You are only then NOT an addict, if such thoughts do NOT arise in your brain ! Example from another field: I am sure that I am not addicted to alcohol. That's because I am not drinking alcohol since more than 10 years, and I NEVER felt and NEVER feel any kind of "lust" to drink. It simply never comes on my "mind map".
I'm on my longest streak since ever. But I know, I am addicted. It is sneaking in the background, but it cannot control me. Like an alcoholic, not drinking anymore.
You are right. Once i make it long for 14 days and then i started thinking that i am not addicted and i can control my self very effectively. But i was WRONG So I fapped after 14 days and i think that was my biggest mistake . Everything went wrong afterwards. I started fapping 1-2 times a day during this duration. Now again i'm trying to setting up a goal of small ( 7 days ) and will see what happens.
Yeah I fapped today and it seems really hard to quit, but I know I can do it. I gotta think clear and see the negative sides and get my self out these damn situations, I know that I need to do it for my own good Peace
Hey there! If you find that it's popping into your head after school as soon as you get home, that could be a trigger. Maybe do something after school to put your mind off it, like going for a jog or devoting an hour to homework as SOON as you get home. Spending time with friends I find helps me most, group settings are good for keeping you busy and distracted.
One of the hallmarks of any addiction is denial of the problem. Only you can decide if you fit the description, but talking to other people (like you're doing here) is a good way to stay focused. One thing that helps me is to look for some way to help someone else, in a non-selfish, no-strings manner. For some reason it helps me not to focus so much on myself.