Re the messaging idea - lets go for that so herwith a message. Commercial sex is so darn easy and so darn enjoyable that i have not yet found a way to say no when ive been off it for a week or so. Im sure if my other half (OH) was more into regular sex I'd have less of an urge to go elsewhere but its a habit 30 years in the making but although im grinding it down ever so slowly im not free yet
