Fetishizing the quitting of P and M

Maybe...

I have noticed that I get an odd sense of excitement when I log on here. All of - or, at least, most of - the talk on here revolves around porn, masturbation, and sex, so that might have something to do with it. I visit this site more than any others right now and I sometimes wonder if I've merely switched one obsession for another.

At the same time, it has kept me from PMO for 21 days straight without relapse, so that's something.

 

Yeah, that's interesting.

It sounds like you're married, so we are approaching this from very different angles. For me this is the first time I've spoken so frankly and openly about my sexuality with other people. It's a liberating feeling.

When you say "trigger", though, what do you mean by that? I'm assuming this isn't a trigger that urges you towards PMO, so do you mean a trigger towards obsession in general?

 

There is a popular male-chastity sub-genre in the FemDom world. If you have FemDom leanings in your life or in your P watching then the feelings are only to be expected.

I found NoFap enormously helpful for the first 50-60 days or so and then found I was beginning to use it to fill the gap that P had left and spending a couple of hours a day here. It sounds like you may be experiencing the same thing. My decision was not to quit NoFap, but to cut back and refocus on off-line / real world activities.

ANH

 

Some threads turn me on but as I am in flatline I don't mind so much! I don't M after reading here though.

 

Avoid all salacious looking threads.

 

It is a tricky line to tread but if you get it right, Femdom leanings can help strengthen your resolve to put your wife first and get P out of your life for her sake as much as your own. Interesting that you have Femdom leanings in life but did not indulge in Femdom porn. Does your wife take the lead in your relationship and/or in the bedroom?

ANH

 

My advice is to totally commit to quitting porn for good, for yourself and for your wife. Re-focus your energy solely on her and if the fact that you are dedicating yourself fully to her turns you on, embrace it, don't worry. Few women complain about a husband who is too loving and does too much for them. If you find that this site itself is becoming a P-sub for you, that is another matter and you should wean yourself off it and put the time and energy into your relationship instead.

As far as I can tell, you have all the right conditions for you to succeed in quitting porn and strengthening your relationship and sex-life with your wife as a result.

Good luck
ANH