Hey guys, I think it's more then time for me to join you all. I'm 23 years old, from Paris. I can have a great life, i have succeeded in my studies (almost failed getting my degree because of lack of motivation). For a long time now, i've been lazy, not motivated to do anything. My last relationship was 2 years ago. Porn is the issue, i want to work-out, go run, work hard but then i masturbate and after i'm done, all motivation is gone, and i just sit all day and masturbate. I masturbate like 4-5 times a day. In the beggining, it was just regular "normal" porn. But now it is gone way to far. I get turned on by so many kinds of extreme porn. I think i've seen all of it. I'm so disgusted at myself. I can't stay like this. I have to stop it all. I tried to do it alone and failed, didn't last more than 6 days. But with a little help, i can do it. (sorry if my english is not up to the mark, not used to typing in english)
It's great that you joined this group. Remember to keep posting to keep the motivation! Don't be hard on yourself, but still be aware of the bad effects of porn and being obsessed with it. Make sure you read a lot about it. It will make you feel less guilty, and provide you with the tools to quit. Remember that what makes you do it is not your "rational brain". It's a compulsion. And very importantly, it's not like cigarettes or coffee, in the sense that you can't stop gradually. It has to be an all or none. Again, don't be hard on yourself, but at the same time, know that you have to quit it!!
Hey bro First, don't be disgusted by yourself. Be disgusted by PMO. It is not your fault that the world is a mess. - Visit yourbrainonporn.org and read through the websitse. - Try to encourage other people, it will help you alot. - Keep a journal and write something everyday. - When you fail, don't binge. Just realize that you have made a mistake and start again. - Do something you love and invest all your passion and time in it. You will forget what PMO is. Welcome to NoFap
Welcome Commander. I echo the words of the guys above - we all know and can relate to how u feel. Don't sweat it, you're among friends here. Here's my advice for you to get in the fight against PMO the easiest and most effective way below. IF you do these things and get fully educated, it goes a log way to fighting the urges and building a great streak. 1. Share your story (how it started and where you are now with PMO)by starting a journal on the Forum - started already! 2. Set up a porn blocker on your computer and all other devices. 3. Get yourself an accountability partner on this site, and locally if you have a close friend you can safely confide in 4. Visit www.yourbrainonporn.com to understand the science of the addiction so you can battle it with wisdom. 5. Watch The Tedtalk here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wSF82AwSDiU 6. Read posts here daily and update your journal - you'll understand others' experiences and how they may relate to you 7. Set realistic goals and add a counter to help you and everyone see your progress. 8. Ask questions along the way - we're here to help! Get back up, shake yourself off and let's march on PMO to take our lives back! Welcome to the team!
