Somehow NoFap has the opposite effect on me

You need to use the energy you get from NoFap in something like getting a hobby or a carreer(job) or something else.

If you don't do anything and just sit there at home you will become stressed do you know why? Because if you don't move or exercise you're energy used by fap will cause you to get stress and i don't mean you need to start getting muscles at the gymm i just mean start walking or cycling. And use those energy in other things in life like getting a new hobby and so on.

Bassicly you're body can't handle the energy that is inside you if you don't use it wich causes you to release stress.

 

That video is spot on. NoFap is not going to help you on its own, its not going to do the work for you, the hard work needs to come from you. I've read plenty of people saying here that the idea is that you want to bit by bit to use NoFap less and less, engaging more with your own life, away from the internet and also from NoFap. Who are the ones who said that? The ones who are succeeding in changing their lives from the looks of it.

 

Some people tell me that when they are are going through a reboot certain things do increase before they get better. I know that one 'social anxiety' and my advice is that you have to push yourself through that barrier, not push yourself too fast too quickly because it can lead to you closing yourself off again.
With objectifying its the same issue, that your brain has being programmed to think in that way over time, so it will take time before you reprogram it. Keep going through the thoughts, rationally explaining to yourself why you think it was wrong to objectify in each certain instance. Eventually this will as according to others I've read a sub-conscious thing in the end, you will naturally not look at them as such.
To put it simply, with both issues you mention, it takes time and persistence. Nothing changes over night with this addiction.

 

I second the advice of the previous post. Persistence is the key. Two weeks is nothing when it comes to beating a long term habit like this. Also, you're going through some physiological changes as you rewire your brain, things might be a little rough for a while. I'd say it takes months before things start to settle down a bit and you find out what you're really like without porn.

Also - check that your expectations are realistic. Quitting porn isn't going to suddenly turn you into James Bond.

 

things get worse before they get better

 

watch my old topic :
https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/withdrawal-symptoms-i-figured-it-out.109023/

You use porn to deal with negative emotions if you don't use porn it feels like you are depressed because you suddenly feel negative emotions who you've never felt because you used drugs(porn) to handle them..

So its more a way of learning how to deal with negative emotions

 

a great website you can check out for meeting new people and doing things you enjoy is meetup. I've had a hard time socializing with people growing up and I figured the more experience I get socializing and doing things I actually enjoy doing like hiking, the easier it may get. It's a great site

 

Of course you're feeling stressed and more socially anxious we. You've been self medicating with PMO and just suddenly stopped. Have you replaced PMO with other activities? Exercise? A hobby? Anything?

It always feels worse before it feels better. Any addiction is that way.

 

Don't worry I'm in the same boat mate, my anxiety and stress is way worse. As they're saying though as with any addiction it'll get worse before it gets better, just find stuff that's engaging for you to do and try to enjoy yourself!

Rewiring can take a long time, especially if you've been addicted for years and how severe it was.