Well I have completed my 30 day stint... Been a struggle but got there,.. & I feel thankful &more than anything very humble.. but.. I have to say I have a lot of mix feelings with this whole thing, & somewhat heavy hearted too... When I read posts/story's of people who have relapsed & hearing there disappointment, anguish, sadness, sense of failure, hopelessness, disheartened story's ... I feel like what can I say to these people to uplift/help/encourage them, there are times I'm just at a loss into what to say... And I think that it could easily be me!! & how much this whole thing is on a knife edge!!... (somewhat frightening isn't it) But the fantastic thing is the peoples tenacity, fortitude & get up I can do this spirit to overcome this insidious thing of porn &self pleasure... Not the typical good news story, but there are times you just have to say it how it is... So... For the people who are doing it tuff,.. I'm with you, support you all the way... Let's do this!!! Ps... Can I say it is just fantastic to give my wonderful wife my full sexual devotion, with confidence & guilt free... Pss... May God give you strength & bless all of you in this walk.... To live happy, peaceful, contented lives... Let's kick porn thing right up the ass!!!... To my Nofap clan ... You rock!!!
Congratulations Any tips to get till day 30? I always go 13-18 days then I peek once and end up relapsing. Can you help me out with that?
Hmmm.... Well.... I find set your self small achievable goals, in your case, go weekly without PMO & just go to week to week to your 30 day goal... If you do get tempted just try not to go there & look at greater picture of what your trying to achieve & that's to stop pmo, ideas--put some software on your computer /phone to stop you looking at porn sites, go for a jog or run, do a hobby that you like to do or even get on this site & put your hand up for help.... I know there is a nofab booklet that you can download for free with very helpful guidelines(on the Nofap home page) ... That is very helpful in your situation... Is there accountability person/friend that can help you with this??... Well there's a few things off the top of my head that you could give a go... Very very best of luck in this walk & kick porn thing right the ass!! the Nofap clan is right behind you....
hows it going? keep trying... the successful ones are those who keep getting up. We will all stumble, of course. Just keep getting up, you'll get better at not stumbling.
Hi and thanks for your for words of support... Means a great deal... This porn thing is a insidious thing...isn't it...
yup! Need to keep remembering that quote about habit and excellence. Was it Aristotle? But basically it's all about the power of habit. building up the little victories.
Harrrr ... Aristotle... The great Greek thinker/phylosopher.. Ho yes iv herd of him... & yes, so true.... Thanks for your support...
Thanks for the tips I have put blockers on my laptop but cannot find anything concrete for android, and I'm not comfortable with rooting it till its in its warranty. I gave away my good smartphone for a pathetic Xperia E anyways for the coming few months so thats not a problem (atleast till my parents are asleep). I dont have an accountability partner yet and I have been trying to find someone here but I havent found anyone that is going through this swamp as an 18 year old with exams on the top of his head, and I dont mean to be rude but I cannot afford time to come here daily and post because I know I procrastinate a lot once I'm with any device and nothing to do. I know what I want to become in life, its just that PMO is clouding it for me so bad. I know if I dont work now, it will be too late to repair the damage. Any tips on the above would be helpful. Also I'm experiencing insomnia. I feel tired by 10:30 at night but cant fall asleep before 1 or 2 am till my eyes are begging for some rest. Generally I tend to relapse in that period. Any advice to deal with insomnia and with no motivation to succeed in life? Its like I know its wrong and I feel powerless at times. Thanks for your time and goodluck for the 90
Just focus on the things that are really important to you right now! Like studies, family & friends! When we are anxious/taking too much tea or coffee/use our phones while going to sleep it tends to mess with our sleep cycle! So its advisable to stay away from any device around 1 hour before sleep.. You can even just sit still with your eyes for a few minutes & reflect ! That will also calm your nerves! Dont worry! Everything will be fine!
