Forward steps. 1 year 10 months, (669 days) PMO-Free

My Forward Steps

When I first started to realize my own mistake of starting to abuse Porn: I decided to start by being completely dissatisfied in where I was. I eventually created a vision of where I wanted to be. After that I made a plan of how I'd achieve it. This all created the potential for change in my life.

My Why

I became angry with my half-efforts, my lack of desire to change, and seeing no future for myself. I eventually forgave myself, but my point is: I despised, forgave and recognized my enemy which was my own desire to watch Porn, eat too much food, not exercise, not read, etc. I made a list of reasons, why I disliked Porn and why I wanted to defeat it: It is a terrible industry to support, it takes my time away, it takes away my drive for a real relationship, it traps me with shame and lies/excuses, it's taken from my life.

My Where

I decided to direct myself towards a healthier lifestyle and becoming happy, mental health and physical health -- socialization, exercise, diet, changing negative thinking etc -- became my new priorities. A quick satisfaction and false sense of happiness became replaced with an slowly built genuine happiness.

My How

Getting out of my comfort-zone by eating healthier food, exercising daily, changing the negative thoughts to positive ones, going outside and talking regularly to others, and getting a tolerance to triggers, urges and not going back to Porn. The main thing I learned was to forgive myself quickly -- but acknowledge -- if I made a mistake, to learn from it and/or remember it for next time, and not dwell on it so much.

My Change

I am still changing, learning from my mistakes, and moving forwards. My progress has been significant but not easy -- a lot of good achievements are gained from pain and/or discomfort -- and it's made me happy achieving things slowly and going through those pains. I went from a depressed, anxiety filled, problematic person, to one that has self-confidence, health, happiness, and a new life.

Concluding thoughts

It's not entirely about giving away Porn, it's about changing your entire outlook, slowly becoming the person you want to be, acknowledging your progress, and appreciating the Journey and not so much the final destination. Use getting away from Porn as a stepping stone towards better achievements, use the happiness you gain to keep free of your own desires, and forgive but don't forget your own mistakes!

Keep changing!
LS

 

I am happy that you are happy peace love and positivity to you briter

 

Brother*

 

awesome achievement....stay strong..u can do it....

 

You can do it as well!!