should i tell anyone about this addiction?

Hi! I don't think it's a good idea to keep talking about your problems with her, she clearly doesn't understand how hard this is for us. I told my mother and it was so damned hard, she was so disappointed of me, but she eventually understood. I thought the same you did about confessing in order to stop, but when I told a friend, although she was of the same religion she thought that very same: that it was normal. For what you say, it's clear that you accepted that it was normal, that's why you binged. See, I don't know if fapping is normal or not, and sincerely I don't care, I want it out of my life because all the damage it has done, and obviously it has done you a lot of damage too. I wouldn't tell it to anybody my age, it's disappointing to see so many people that faps. I feel even lonelier in my fight! Mom doesn't fap, she is in hard mode since divorce but she was disappointed and sometimes I regret telling her. Try having an AP, if you live in the same city you could meet in person. You're not fighting this alone, be sure of that

 

I'm not trying to be insensitive or anything, but what exactly are you hoping to change about your addiction by telling her? It won't change anything. You don't need anyone's understanding or compassion. You're in this alone pretty much. It's hard to accept, I know, and I really hope this information doesn't affect you in all the wrong ways, but sadly it's true. No one can stop this addiction for you. Even if your parents and all of your friends and everyone in your city of residence would be in on your problem and offer you the utmost understanding and support, you'd still have to end this addiction by yourself. I wish you all the best and apologize for this dark and dire revelation.

 

Try and find an accountability partner on these forums and see if it helps before actually telling a "real person"

 

Wow, there is quite a bit of negativity in this thread. Yes, it does change a thing if you talk about it with others. A mountain of shame that is on your shoulders collapses. Fighting this addiction on your own does not work. I've tried for like seven years. Now I joined this forum, got an accountability partner and directly went to 24 days and counting. Talking helps!

I agree with others that you should look for an accountability partner on this board. It has the benefit, that they know what porn addiction is (you don't have to convince them), they know what you are going through, and (for me) it does not feel like I am putting a burden on them.

I told quite a bit of in real life persons and they have been nothing but supportive and it was a huge relief for me that I told them about my problems. But, those were people I knew where understanding and people I could trust. Given how your mother reacted I would not tell her.

I wish you best of luck! If you want to look for an accountability partner (you should!!) look here: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?forums/accountability-partners.7/

Best,
hexotl