Afraid?

Finding love is about taking chances. With no risk there is no reward right? It is normal to be nervous about dating, but even more so for a man in your situation. The best advice I can give you is you just have to go for it and the more you do it, date I mean the easier it will become and the more confidence that you will have. You mention you have anxiety so I know this is going to be hard for you, but you need to try to stop with the what ifs. The what ifs kill your happiness. But if you must turn them into a positive what if. What if I meet the girl of my dreams? What if I have amazing sex?

 

It's better to lead a life of unsuccessful attempts than a life of missed opportunities.

I felt that at first too, lostone. It will go away as you distance yourself from porn. In the end you'll decide what's important in the relationship.

 

lostone, aren't you interested in a relationship so you can hear a woman's laugh? Aren't you interested in a relationship so you can see a woman's feminine (girlie) facial gestures and hand movements? Aren't you interested in a relationship so you can see the excitement on a woman's face when she sees you after days (or weeks) apart? These are some of the things I love about having a woman, things that have nothing to do with raw sex, although a lot to do with femininity. Sex is awesome, but these other things (and more I haven't listed) in total are a lot greater than sex.