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Discussion in 'New to NoFap' started by vineyard, Dec 28, 2017.

  1. vineyard

    vineyard Fapstronaut

    Hi,

    Welcome everyone, I find NoFap kind of by accident and I am astonished by existence of this community.

    I literally struggle with my masturbation addiction for almost 25 years. It influenced my life in many levels, most importantly, I have never created relationship which lasted longer than 3 months, and any try to build a relation happens every 2-3 years. I am practicaly not active sexually for all my life, PIED is also an issue. Accually, porn is not such an significant issue in my case, I watch it maybe every 30th masurbation and I do not have problem leaving porn. My addiction is based on imagination, fantasy driven stimulation. Today morning I did it again. I am starting my non-PM 1 month challange - question to old users - can you direct me to part of forum where non-PM Fapstronauts conversate? I realise taht non-PMO is recommended, but I decided for Non-PM challenge, I realise the obstacles.

    Excuse my little chaotic introduction - I am absolutely not used to speak about this problem of mine, not mentioning writting it publicly on forum. Although I must say I am full of hope after finding this community, I spent 2 hours yesterday evening reading basic information here and it hit me that it correspond with my own observations of my addiction patterns like nothing before. My problem was ignored by psychologists an sexuologists I have visited through the years, seeing that masturbation is normal, sexual behaviour. Well, it is not in my case, when it substitutes any sexual acivities with other person. I have built and cemented my sexuality as "solo" thing - and this community gives me hope (and method!) to overcome it.

    Once again - happy to be here - it is something new to me knowing that there are literally thousands of people with problem like me, and within this amount - so many, who overcome it. I will be grafeful to anyone supporting my challenge, hope and motivation. I know to well I will not handle it alone.

    All the best :)
     
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  2. Fen1x_

    Fen1x_ Fapstronaut

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    Good luck bro.,
     
  3. Rob_B_

    Rob_B_ Fapstronaut

    Hi @vineyard - welcome to the site, glad you found your way here! :)

    You're not alone, many of us myself included have the same problem. In fact, that's what finally drove me to seek solutions, which is how I came across this place.

    Same here. Porn I can handle, it's the stuff that's in my own head which is the challenge for me. But every day (more or less) I get better at it, and develop new and better coping mechanisms, so there is certainly hope.

    I'm non-PM myself. I've never had an issue mingling with others who are on slightly different paths - my experience is that most everyone seems to play nicely together, whether you're P-only, PM, 'hard mode', or whatever. My advice would be to head to the relevant age forum (30-39, in your case?) and start journalling there, at least that worked for me pretty well (in the 40+ forum, in my case). Read a lot, share a lot, comment a lot - the more the better.

    I know what you mean, but soon enough it'll become second nature. The anonymity helps a lot, as does the fact that everyone here is dealing with similar issues. You're among friends.

    I wish you every success on your journey - keep in touch! :)
     
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  5. vineyard

    vineyard Fapstronaut

    thanks for support. keep on rebooing!
     
  6. vineyard

    vineyard Fapstronaut

    @Rob_B_ , thanks a lot for warm welcome and reffering to my thoughts. it feels good to know I am understood in my situation :)

    I will go there with my everyday stuff, thanks for advice!

    And that's the essence.

    Let's keep in touch Rob, thanks again!
     
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  7. vineyard

    vineyard Fapstronaut

    thanks for support, I will definitely have a look, I am carving my own system. day 1 - I am looking forward obstacles - as I know myself, Chaser Effect will hit me within next 3 days ;) good look with your goals!
     
  8. cloudymood

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    Hello, welcome and good luck !
     
  9. vineyard

    vineyard Fapstronaut

    thanks Bro, good luck to you too! keep in touch! :)
     

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