I suck at meeting people. Hopeless and clueless here

Maybe try one of those Events/Activities groups for single adults that schedule activities but not for the sole purpose of dating but to meet other singles and enjoy an activity together. My coworker ended up meeting his wife that way. I am thinking of maybe doing one of these myself.

 

I know how you feel man. The easiest way to break that wall is common ground. For me it was concerts. I found it easy to connect with someone over music because it’s something I really love. You have to get out of your comfort zone and just take a leap!

 

How old are you? No matter your age it is never too late to get out there and get started. And by the way you are going to have to reveal your PMO addiction, even if far in the past to whomever you date eventually so that will account for those 15 years. Online dating usually to most people who are shy seems like a great idea. Except you have to eventually meet a stranger in person, and that freaks out shy people to no end, and they often make poor first impressions. As I have written before online dating is brutal, and riddled with rejection, so just be aware of that. I recommend trying to meet people in person on a non dating basis. Just go to places women will be at, or even try singles activities. It is harder to make same sex friends as we age. I found that volunteering for a cause that was important to m e on a weekly basis allowed me to meet so many people. No matter what you decide it is going to be uncomfortable at first, but you have to step out of your comfort zone to grow.

 

Especially for men. Online dating is especially brutal for men, because women get some TEN times the attention as men do online. It's a tool to use, but DEFINITELY look to meet women in real life also.

BiggA, you're probably wondering now, where are women at? That's a question I wrestled with a lot. Yes, women volunteer, and they volunteer more than men. So you will likely be outnumbered if you go volunteer. So ... go volunteer!! Another place where you can find more single women than single men is church. Unfortunately, that may not be relevant to you (as it isn't relevant to me). It's a lot harder for men to meet women than it is for women to meet men ... REMEMBER THAT! I say that so, when you get down (and you WILL sometimes get down), you can take some comfort in knowing that you have it harder as a guy to meet women than vice versa. Another avenue are more-feminine activities like arts-and-crafts meetup groups and the like. Another one, and this one is admittedly harder, is hitting on women you like at stores women go to more than men, like Bed, Bath, and Beyond, or even grocery stores or Walmart. But do the volunteering and the church thing - those are a couple of your best options.

 

As long as you realize that bro you're golden I have trouble with it still sometimes but I just take action and just be happy that I took the action to do so and the results are inconsequential I realize you can't let fear run your life than you're not living porn isn't who you are but your egoic mind wants you to hold on to this identity but ye true you knows it not you just know there is conflict between your true self and your ego the ego never wants you to live in the present always wants you to feel guilty about the past and worry about the future but our true selves live in the present and are only concerned with being instead of doing a book that helped me is the power of now by Eckhart Tolle