Having sex during a reboot

I’m not really an expert in this personally from experience but from what I have heard being horny isn’t really affected by your reboot, in fact it should help. Unless possibly you’ve walled yourself off from all ideas of sexual activity. You probably just weren’t having a good time. Maybe figure out what helps you get more into it and make sure your partner knows if you like something or don’t. Or worse case is that she isn’t the one for you if all else fails. But it’s very likely it’s just one of the first things. Good luck bro

 

Similar thing happened to me recently, started seeing a girl, we went out a couple of times and attempted to have sex. I had a hard time getting and maintaining an erection and never ended up climaxing. After I was shaking thinking that she was going to be hurt or leave but we simply talked about it and she said she was not going anywhere. I told her about nofap and porn addiction, she even went home that night and did a ton of research in support. She told me that if it took months she wanted to help me fix my problem, even if that meant going to see a medical professional together.

Remember its called rebooting for a reason, your brain is rewiring itself from porn to a real person. It may take time, weeks, months even but with time your brain can fix itself. If you have not already, talk with the girl and let her know what's up. If she freaks, she was not worth it, if she sticks around then start slow but eventually your issue with begin to heal.

In the meantime make her climax using other skills and read up on lots of foreplay.

 

You don’t have a counter so I cannot tell if you are PMO free or if so for how long. First you are not ready to date until you can openly discuss your PMO issues with the women. Second, if you are not at least 90 days clean, dating isn’t a good idea. Did you ever hear how AA does not recommend getting into new relationship early in recovery? When you are in reboot your emotions are all over the place, and a new relationship adds a ton of stress and insecurity. Third if you try sex and either cannot perform or dont enjoy it you are more likely to slip back to PMO. Do a 90 day reboot and dont date during that time. You have your whole life to date, and when you meet the right girl you want to be fully ready to give her what she deserves.

 

That’s really awesome that you told her. It says a lot about how far you have come and how brave you are, I know it is not easy.