150 days free from PM (spouse)! This will be a short overview. Days 120-150 have been sporty for me. Mood has been good and consistent but thoughts will take time to heal. I would give mood a consistent 9/10 while Negative thoughts range anywhere from 6 to 8 depending on situation. The only difference now is i don't dwell too much on the negative. Anyways, I have to keep telling myself that this is a marathon and not a race. Cardio sucks, but your heart grows stronger over time. Eventually you forget the pain and realize that it was good you were afflicted. What we endure by avoiding P is the same. We run away from P because it harms us; we continue running because the further we are from P the better it is for our souls. If you are reading this don't give up. This is a marathon not a race. Therefore be strong and very courageous. Stand firm and do not tremble. Put to death the old corrupt man that used to reside within. Reboot, rewire, reset, do what you need to do to get out. See you guys at 6 months!
So im a new guy on this site but an old addict that is trying to get over his unhealty desires.I've been reading a lot of post arround and i have some questions. If someone who passed this can answer i will be forever grateful . 1. How do you now if you need 30 or 60 or 90 days before rebooting is over ? 2. What are the changes i should be aware in this time ? 3. It's not the first time i tryied giving up on PMO ,but after just a few days my urges are gone,my libido is -100 and Jr. feels really limp ,like he is not there,thing that scares me .I love looking at girls but i dont feel that urge anymore.The question is,is that a normal thing in this process? 4. Can you date in this period of time ? And if yes ,can you have sex without beeing afraid you re gonna have another embarassing episode ? 5. What happens after you reach the goal you proposed ? 6. How do your body reacts to sexual intercourse after lets say,90 day without ejaculation.i mean,i dont think im gonna last more than 10 seconds.How do you manage that without getting things more awkward than they already are ? Thanks everyone for beeing so suportive and keep up the good work guys .
1. You will reset when you reset. There is no specific time. Everyone is different. 2. Look for your answer on your question 3. That is the feeling. 3. Yes. Look at question 2. 4. You are still in a pocess so your embatrassing episodes will continue until you reach the answer to your #1 question. Meaning, you will reset whenever you in your mind will not even have to think about this. 5. There is no timeframe for a reset. 90 days is just a standard time frame. Bit it could be 6 months, 1 year or more. Some people been doing PMO for decades. 6. You will need to learn to relax and know yourself. Control. Breathing. All I can tell you is Stop PMO. Don't ever go back to it. Don't worry about timeframes you will eventually be ready. You got to pay your dues for all the damage you done to yourself. Think of it as losing weight. Imagine yourself being 450 Lbs. Do you think that 90 days are going make you lose all the weoght to normal like a 165 Lb all muscle guy. No. Same concept.
So you already have answered my next question . You know you re ready when you dont have doubts and fear doesnt control you any more.Seems fair .what i still dont understand is this "people doing pmo for decades" . What does that mean ? You finish your reboot , lets say 90 days , everything is allright , you get into a relationship lets say , why is there a need to stop with the orgasm if you now have a normal healthy sexual life . Wouldnt that stop you from getting atached or create a relationship if your not gonna have sex with your SO ? Im looking to finish my reboot and return to my normal life . Im do not want porn and stuff back in if i will be free from this. So why do people need to continue and reboot over and over again ? Thank you for your reply !
And i know i ve done a lot of damage to myself all these years , and i accept the fact that some dues must be paid. And the price for my happines is never too high. Im willing to do whatever it takes to get rid of all the fear and frustration that is controling me for years
Good job brother, keep up the spirit. some day I will feel it my way, because I'm not gonna give up. Thank you for your motivation.
The Porn needs to away. Masturbation to porn must go away. Orgasm from Masturbation to Porn must never happen again. Now, masturbation to what? Mutual masturbation? How often? Never at the same rate as when masturbating to Porn. So just forget about it. Orgasm? Well, Semen retention is the ultimate goal. The older you get the less you need to orgasm. After 40 I think no more than once every 16 days. You can have sex more often just not Orgasm. So in esense it is a lifetime of No Porn, No Masturbation, no Orgasm. It is like being overweight, like 400 lbs. You go on a diet and start eating healthy. You lose weight. Do you stop or continue eating healthy for the rest of your life? It is a lifestyle change. Same concept.
Hmm...sound great, I have been thinking of doing NoFap for a year now, and I failed again and again in my earlier efforts. Now all of a sudden I joined NoFap and I am on my 4th day now, never made it to 4 days ever before. I haven't been thinking of porn and the only time I got an urge was on seeing a hot lady at a shop. Curious to know what will happen during next ten days or so!
Well to this day, I kept myself free from masturbation for a period of 111 days, almost 4 months, this achievement was only possible to the strong will and with help in prayers addressed to God. During this healthy time, experience more strength, positive energy, decision, courage, faith, hope, tranquility, serenity and greater happiness and gratitude with people who surround me and extend my hand increasing my confidence. I enjoyed more time outside the house (healthy and enjoyable activities) and inside it (by the same self-control that strengthened my will), since as I had control I could perform activities that impacted and positively strengthened within it (wash dishes , sweep, iron, run errands, watch television with more self control, go out and talk more quietly, study focused on avoiding self-conditioning, activities that will fill me more positively), the shyness I felt towards the people around me and from outside was decreasing more and more from one day to the next progressively; I felt calm in tense situations and the way I saw women during that time free of masturbation (between days 90-111), was more natural and clean looked at them with more value (beyond the physical), enjoyed more than Conversation with women, their presence, their joy and a more determined and controlled physical contact because the control I had about self-conditioning and desire was better (a healthy desire) and I could keep myself without falling directly into vice.
