What other people think of you

What do other people think of you?
What do you think of other people?
How much are they right or wrong?
How much are you right or wrong?

 

So if you pass a wrong image to someone that could be your intelectual soulmate, and he/she doesn't open up with you, you don't care?

I am not talking about thinking about you as "seeing if you are worth", but just if they like to be around you or not, and if they feel safe with you to open up.

 

I wouldn't know what people think of me because honestly I don't care and nor am I interested in the slightest. Same thing as I don't think anything of other people as well, what am I supposed to be thinking about anyways?

 

I think this is an interesting question and can be insightful. While I think it's healthy to not let others opinions of you effect your own self worth, I also think it can be valuable to know what people think of you. For example, if you consistently come across as arrogant to every one you meet, wouldn't you want to know that, so you can change the way you present yourself a bit? I would. If every single person I came across thought I was arrogant or pretentious or something else that I know I'm not, in my heart, I would want to figure out what it is that's giving off that impression, and perhaps change it.

Anywhoozle, the thing that always comes to mind for me when people ask this is when, a few years ago, my mom told me that apparently one of my aunts was making some comments about me being really pretentious and judgemental, and it was hilarious. Anyone who knows me knows that's just about the exact opposite of who I am. My mom was like "uh... what? Are we talking about the same person?" Turns out, she thought that because I was always presented so well and dressed really nice and accessorized and stuff. So I guess she thought I was really into appearances and brands and stuff. Funny thing is, at that point in time, I would say probably at least 80% of the clothes I owned were either free, from friends, or I got at a yard sale or thrift shop. I honestly couldn't care less about brands or being the best dressed person in the room. Lol and I certainly don't judge other people for not dressing like me.

Anyway, that was just a funny experience. One of those moments where someone just saw something totally completely wrong and I couldn't understand where she would get that idea.

 

I think of others, if they are good people etc. etc. I do that by first trying to forgot what I pre thought and try to talk to them.

I mean, we can't live together with people without thinking about them and without wanting to know what they think, for example your partner, family.
I think it's ok to not care what everyone thinks of you, but IMO you can if you want, change your outside image for it to be closer to your inner self.

 

The only people I care what they think about me is my SO and my dad, everyone else it doesn't matter to me.

If someone sees me as rude, snobby, or whatever, that's what they think and they should judge less really. I'm not going to change how I do something or say smile more just to get people to change their opinion of me, my outerself doesn't match how my innerself is but that's just who I am.

 

Same .

It is a totally waste of time.

 

That's a nice question. IMO you should care little a bit. For example, people might get the wrong first impression and you should know why did that happen and, if you really want, try to improve on it. However you should have enough confidence, self esteem, or independence to not let others peoples thoughts affect you in any way. I mean, there's X person, and you, somehow, give them a wrong first impression of yourself (for example that you are arrogant) which isn't true. You should care enough to try know why did that happen and, if you really wish, clear it out. However you shouldn't care so much to the point that the fact that X person think's you're "this" or "that", eventually really makes you feel like "this" or "that", or just sad and mad with yourself.
This, obviously, varies from person to person. What your crush thinks of you is probably more important than what a random hobbo thinks of you, however first impressions usually depend of you and of your personality, so knowing how to get your "cool" and "nice" characteristics to shine is always good, and usually you rely on other people and experience to do so.

 

I’ve had some people say I’m pleasant to be around and others have called me an asshole. I know I’m capable of being either pleasant or an asshole, and sometimes even a pleasant asshole.

I guess what I’m trying to say is, I’m pleasant.

 

I don't care what other people think of me in a personal sense, but I do care in an advantageous sense.

How people think of you can be used to your advantage.

 

Treat others how they treat you, that's it.

 

I don't think there's such thing as a soul mate.

To answer the original questions:
I've had people say positive things about me like I'm friendly, hardworking and intelligent, also had negative things said about me like I'm boring and quiet. They are all right. At times I'm not friendly and can be quiet. Sometimes I don't feel like engaging people and probably appear to be boring.

Sometimes I care what people think about me, sometimes I don't care at all.

I'm not buying this when people say they don't care what other people think. I think deep down we all do care.
If we're going to an interview we care what the interviewer thinks of us.
If employed we care what our employer thinks of us.
If in school/university we don't want our teacher/professor to hate us.
If our Mother or Father told us they hate us most of us would be deeply hurt.
If you're on a date you really care what your date thinks of you.
If your SO said they were hurt by something you did or said, it's unlikely you would respond by telling them you don't care what they think of you.

We shouldn't care about what some people think of us because some peoples opinions of us don't matter. But I don't think any person doesn't care about what every person thinks of them. There are some people we want to like us. Because if everyone hated us we would be all alone and no one wants to be all alone.

My problem is I can care too much about people's opinions of me but I'm working on changing that.

 

Most people probably think I'm a dick.
I think most people are a little too vain to understand other other people. I can't really put my finger on what it is, but I do know that I'm usually the outsider in most situations.
You know, I wouldn't say that they're wrong for assuming that. I'm 78% right.

 

Lol, soulmate is just a term.