My PA Husband recently identified himself as an “Intimacy Anorexic”. Once he shared with me the characteristics of it I no longer felt crazy for the feelings I’ve had about our relationship in my marriage for all these years. Here are some characteristics of an Intimacy Anorexic and videos for the spouses who feel Married and Alone... The 11 Characteristics of Intimacy Anorexia 1. Busy Intimacy anorexics stay so busy that they have little time for their spouse. 2. Blame The intimacy anorexic will blame their spouse for the problems in the marriage. 3. Withholding Love The intimacy anorexic actively withholds love the way the spouse likes to be loved. 4. Withholding Praise Intimacy anorexics do not regularly praise their spouse privately. 5. Withholding Sex Not all intimacy anorexics withhold sex from their spouse. Most intimacy anorexics do withhold intimacy during sex, however. 6. Withholding Spiritually Intimacy anorexics can be very religious or a spiritual leader. But at home they rarely connect spiritually with their spouse. 7. Unable to Share Feelings The intimacy anorexic is someone who is unwilling or unable to share their feelings with their spouse. 8. Criticism Ongoing or ungrounded criticism toward their spouse is another characteristic of intimacy anorexia. 9. Anger/Silence An intimacy anorexic can use anger or silence to control their spouse. 10. Money This is the least common feature of intimacy anorexia but when it’s present it is really strong. The intimacy anorexic will use money to control or shame the spouse. 11. Roommate The spouse of the intimacy anorexic feels as if they are a roommate rather than a spouse. If any of you are interested: @phuck-porn! @Thor god of thunder @Rachie @Kenzi @AnonymousAnnaXOXO @TryingHard2Change
Interesting how this also falls under emotional unavailability too. This was my hubby for a long time, thankfully this is changing.
It’s the same thing I believe. This is just a formal term for it. I personally believe a lot of marriages suffer from this. It’s nice to have the resources and information to understand and do something about it though!