Reboot w/ Girlfriend--HELP!

It’s great that you realized you have a problem. I’d start by reading yourbrainonporn so that you can understand what is really going on when you are addicted. If you are seeing a therapist for your depression/ADD it’s definitely worth to discuss the issue with them. PA is just a coping mechanism for some deeper issues and you are more likely to succeed if you tackle the root cause rather than just the addiction itself.
Also to stop using porn you have to replace it with something else. If you don’t fill the void it will most likely creep back in. You can do whatever - write haiku, run, go to the gym, start learning Japanese, volunteer. Whatever. Anything will do. Everything may seem sort of boring and tiring to begin with (compared to porn which is nice and easy), but you have to persist. Any long forgotten hobby will do. Or maybe something you would like to try but never had time/courage/motivation to do?
There are many resources shared by members on this forum that will give you information. You will also probably be advised to get your girlfriend on board. Good luck!

 

I definitely think porn was causing me to day dream of scenarios where I'd sleep with someone other than my girlfriend. Would I really do it, very unlikely but it's not something you should be thinking about regularly. Since I stopped I'm not in a constant state of arousal and can concentrate on my real life partner more

 

It could very well be the case. But honestly you will not know unless you stop. You will likely benefit in other ways from stopping PM. My BF says he is much less depressed and feels over all better since getting rid of porn.

 

Because you mention that you suffer from ADD and depression are you on medication to treat those? I only ask because if you are not it could be causing some of your symptoms and you could be using porn to self medicate. I dated a man with ADD and he very easily got bored and his thoughts were all over the place. Meaning he’d check out other women. He also had difficulty focusing during sex. Often porn addiction is a symptom of an underlying mental health issue and you have to treat both to get better. My first piece of advice is to seek counseling and tell your counselor about all these issues.

Second yes studies show that men who view porn cheat more. That being said looking at other attractive people is not necessarily unhealthy and maybe you just don’t want to date this woman anymore. It’s hard to tell what’s the normal progression of life versus addiction sometimes. I mean I was with my college bf for four years and found myself wanting to explore other men. I was not addicted to porn never saw it it was just time fior things to end.

Finally you have to tell your gf about your addiction and ask for her help. You have little to no hope of fixing this without her knowing. It will suck but be honest. Tell her you think you have a prob with porn and want to stop. She likely already knows something is up.

Will stopping porn fix this? I don’t know. But the only way to find out is to stop.

 

Yes, your porn use is definitely making you feel this way, or is at least a major contributor.

Take the advice you're being given here seriously, and stop porn.