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Hey everyone, I’m Terry I’ve recently been looking for some help and now that my masturbation habits have caused things to become a problem in the bedroom.

I’ll start with a little backstory, have been masturbating since I was probably 11 or 12 and I’m 30 now. Have an extremely high sex drive. I’m average I masturbate to her three times a day. As a result I’m constantly finding myself looking for more bizarre and taboo porn. There are times where with my previous partner that if I had masturbated that day there was a huge chance that I could not get off during sex. It also doesn’t help that my stamina isn’t what it should be because I am also out of shape, so if I am going to reach climax during sex it takes forever and I end up burning myself out. I never seen this as much of a problem because usually if I wanted to have Sex that night I would just Restrain myself but even then sometimes I would not get there.

I went through a nasty break up last year and now I’m seeing somebody. Her sex drive is almost as much as mine which is amazing, I’m very attracted to her and thoroughly enjoy sex with her. When we first started having sex it could still take me a while to cum, But usually with some time I didn’t have any issues. And then it happened, I started to lose my erection more and more, Usually my erection without last my stamina but now I find myself struggling to stay hard. Usually during foreplay she can get me there but it seems as soon as we start to have sex, I lose it within minutes. But now even if I can maintain the direction or get it back I cannot finish with her anymore. We have sex multiple times a week, but for the past month or so I have not been able to cum with her.

I heard on My local radio station about porn induced ED so I started looking into it online and found your brain on porn. I read the book and was amazed on how much of it I could relate to. I always thought there was something wrong with me and that I was just this huge perv because of the porn that I would watch so that I could get off. A lot of the things I have watched I’m not even necessarily into or turned on by in every day life, it’s more so the thought of doing something wrong Or out of the norm that fuels my interest. But after reading the book I’ve Realized that I’m not alone and it seems to be there a very common problem with the way we have access to porn these days.

Since I’ve started doing my research I’ve also been able to talk to my partner with 100% transparency and boy what a weight lifted off my shoulders, I told her that this is not her fault and I’ve gone into detail about it but not until recently have I told her everything that I suffer with. I’ve tried giving up porn, And also sex with her, I can’t go more than a couple days without watching porn. And usually I can’t keep my hands off of her LOL. But even when I go a few days without porn or masturbation I still find myself losing my erection and not coming during sex with her, Which in turn makes me want to jerk off Even more after the fact because I did not get off.

I don’t know what to do, even As I write this all I can think about is when I’ll be alone to have time to jerk off. How can I give up something that not only have I done Every day, multiple times a day for half of my life?

I hope I posted this in the right place, and I apologize for it being so long. Just needed to get this off my chest.

 

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