Are you struggling to get past the 1-2 WEEK mark?

There are some of us on this forum constantly struggling to get past the 1-2 week mark on nofap, and its fair enough, nofap is really tough but you can't just expect to get through with pure will power. We have all tried that and found out that it doesn't work.

I can't tell you how many times i couldn't get past the 1 week mark. I am by no means as experienced as some of our veterans here on nofap but i do have some practical advice which has been helping me hit some of the longer streaks so far.

I found the most important thing you could do after a relapse was sit and think exactly what went wrong. Its hard too because you are usually feeling depressed, but there are some questions that are worth asking, in my opinion, because they start to give you the answers and patterns you are after.


The most important thing about a relapse is what you learned about yourself:

What time of the day did your relapse occur?
What triggered the relapse? Maybe you were on youtube/social media and thats where it started?
How were you feeling at the time of the relapse? *important*
What could you have done differently?
What patterns are you noticing after each relapse?

And:
What will you try next time?
In what way will you prevent the next relapse?

You can just have a good think about these kind of questions in your head, or you could write them down. Thinking this way is working for me and you really start to learn more about yourself. We have to start thinking about these things more so we have more power to overcome our addictions and habit cycles.

You clicked on here for a reason, start applying some thought and effort into your addiction instead of just fighting the urges when they come up.

Thanks for reading and GOODLUCK.

 

Asking questions after a relapse gives us answers. It gives us that 'aha!' moment, the moment where we realise exactly what went wrong or when we realize a pattern. From this we can start to make small changes and eventually make great progress.

The more we can get people on this forum to start observing their own thought processes, then the better chance we all have.

 

Sorry to hear that. I know those feeling that can come up after a relapse.

The time to think about your relapse is immediately afterwards. If you don't start to answer these questions you will find it hard to make progress.

Remember you are only human and we will all fall down from time to time, keep trying.

 

I totally agree with all of this, however that is not the only cause for relapse, there are many reasons. I also have never had a problem with my social life or finding a girlfriend.

I, for example, have relapsed at times where i had zero libido and zero interest in PMO. Sometimes stressed, sometimes anxious, sometimes just bored and looking to fill in time. It is a go to habit for a lot of us.

Re-wiring to real life and re-connecting with society is our ultimate goal, but we all need a place to start.

 

I see you are pretty new here on nofap so welcome! You have a great attitude towards this addiction and im hoping you beat PMO just as you beat your smoking habit.

Fair warning, i have seen a lot of posts here on nofap with people who say that PMO is a much harder habit to recover from than smoking. Goodluck!