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I’m done with porn.

Discussion in 'New to NoFap' started by Debussy13, May 23, 2018.

  1. Debussy13

    Debussy13 New Fapstronaut

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    Ive used porn as a distraction to the issues in my life. I have a great job, a fantastic spouse, and I’m intelligent. Underneath all that is a deep sadness and despair. I don’t know the source of it, but I need to dig deep and extinguish the cause of my suffering.

    Porn is visual junk food and I need to cut it out of my diet.

    I’ve always struggled with confidence issues which would come to a major surprise to most people. I have a beautiful spouse and many people tell me how lucky I am. We rarely make love. I know we love each other with all our hearts and we are strong companions but the lust and intimacy is majorly lacking.

    I want to stop living in a fantasy world. I am overcoming this nasty vicious addiction.
     
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  2. 94d33m

    94d33m Fapstronaut

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    Debussy, You are blessed with a beautiful spouse for sure, so theres no need to use PMO as an escape to some fantasy world. You can stop this shameful addiction and start changing your life, the change starts the very moment you decide to :D
     
  3. Hi. Welcome to forum!

    Make sure you crate a personal journal thread in Reboot Logs section and blog there on a regular basis. As well as just generally be active participant in various forum discussions. I recommend this to everybody new here because it's the major thing that helped me when I was first starting. Just lurking on forums, reading and learning is great. But it usually is so much more powerful to engage. It helps to keep us motivated and accountable when we are active part of community. And keeps this in front of our minds so we don't forget about importance of it and slip away in our old habits. Sharing is also therapeutic. This is a major reason why AA meetings work so good. But that was developed before internet era. These days we can get most of the same benefits online through communities like this. So don't underestimate the power of active participation.

    I would also like to suggest you to look into mindfulness meditation. It has helped me personally tremendously. It takes a while to get good at it and notice results, so you need to be consistent with it, but once you do it's very powerful. It has been used by sages for thousands of years to deal with various issues of the mind. And in recent decades the science is also catching up to what ancient sages have know for centuries. Meditation these days are widely used as very effective tool by psychologists for treating addiction and by neurologists for supporting recovery of the brain. It is a great exercise for the brain the same way as jogging is great exercise for the body. Check out this Ted talk, it gives a good idea of what's it about when it comes to philosophy. As far as practical side of it there is this awesome smartphone app called Headspace for guided meditations to get you started.

    Wish you lot's of strength and success in your reboot journey!
     

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