Cry for Help

Find something you enjoy doing&knowing that porn/masturbating will hurt or interfere w/that “something”you choose to enjoy.
For me that’s help a lot.

 

Go to nature !

 

For myself I found willpower and distractions don’t work.

PMO addiction for me is a way to cope with root of my problems. The only way to have any peace is to stop running from my problems and face them, get rid of the things in my head that are blocking me from peace.

The way this is happening for me is with rigorous honesty with myself and others, journaling, meditation, exercise, prayer, SAA meetings, working the 12 steps with a sponsor, and being brutally honest with a therapist.

We’re in a brain cycle where we have been using PMO to cope with life and it’s poisonous so it creates more guilt and shame and self loathing, which adds to the pile of crap that we are running from, and therefore use more PMO to run from that.

To break this cycle I needed to honestly face this crap inside me and start cleaning up all of it and stop running from it.

For me this includes lots of tears, I have cried nearly every day since I got sober, lots of pages of journaling, I’ve written with pen and paper over 350 pages since I got sober, and rigorous honesty, I have told people my deepest darkest secrets that I thought no one else would ever know, and I thought I was unique, and broken forever. It turns out that’s not true.

Through this process I don’t need to run and hide from PMO or situations that used to lead to relapse (being in the bathroom with cellphone for example). For now, i have lost the desire to act out.

Unfortunately if you’re like me, there’s no magic pill solution where we can flip a switch and change instantly, it takes some work to deal with what’s in our head. But it’s worth it.

Hope this helps! And if you need make advice or details lmk! I’m happy to help.

 

This full layout of your situation lines right up with my experiences on this front. I’m not sure that I could speak to others in my circle of friends and acquaintances openly about these things. But I’m definitely journaling and will start to journal specifically about my state on this front. I can’t allow myself to let this problem slip out of my vision. It’s clear that it will slip back in if I don’t treat it like a true addiction.

 

Remove the possibility of relapsing when you get an urge by getting away from your phone/computer right away. If its really bad, leave the house. Discipline is a practiceable skill like any, just start practicing. The difference between who you are and who you want to be is what you do today!!!