What do we all think of soul mates?

Personally, i dont think there are soul mates in the usual sense. In other words i dont think that every person has a specific soul mate placed on the earth for them to find or not find, but i do believe that there can be a person who is perfect for you and vice versa. A person that you can happily spend the rest of your life with and be fulfilled.

 

Hmm...well obviously it would be a very tough thing to realize especially considering that she feels the same way. If she wasnt married, id feel that there was still a chance and try to convince her. Otherwise, i would have to move on.

 

I wonder what @lolwut thinks

 

I don't believe in soul mates... though I do believe in compatibility. Some people are more compatible with each other than others. That being said if you screwed it up with one person who was extremely compatible with you, don't obsess and move on. There are plenty of fish in the sea.

 

I don't believe someone is 'destined' to be my 'soulmate,' however with 8 billion people I believe everyone can find someone that might as well be a 'soulmate.' All it takes is searching & knowing what you want.

 

Marriage is a choice and thats why it seals everything. No one forces you to get married, but if you do, you are making a solemn promise to be with that person. Now if someone wants to get a divorce, im not judging them, things happen and people shouldnt be miserable the rest of their lives because of a bad choice. That being said, in this situation i would feel dishonorable if i tried to pry a married woman from her husband.

And by the way, humanity made up laws against murder too, that doesnt mean we should kill people

 

Soul mate is a fantasy some dude made up to get laid.

 

There are many potential mates.

 

I dont believe in soul mates, but I do believe there are people who might be much better for you than others, of course.

Honestly, I've never believed in soul mates, but being married to my husband has made me question that sometimes. I think back to all of the other guys I've dated or been really interested in, and I can't possibly imagine being even half as happy with ANY of them. My husband is just so my perfect match in so so many ways that it almost makes me believe in soul mates.

God was also very much a part of us getting together, and we both felt incredibly led to each other by Him. There was a time when I liked him, but he was into someone else, and so I said okay fine, and I eventually went abs dated someone else for a bit. After a while though, I just felt like I didn't feel for that other guy half of what I felt for my now-husband. And I felt like God was telling me to wait and just be patient.

As we got closer as friends, and I waited, my husband told me that he was praying one night about that other girl he liked, and felt really discouraged and like God was closing that door. And then he said "well, God, is Castielle someone I maybe should be with?" And in his words, he says that he instantly loved me in that moment and knew that I was who he should be with.

I dont know if that makes us soul mates though. I believe there is a danger in believing in soul mates, because it could encourage infidelity. Because what if I had married my ex boyfriend, as I had plans to back then, and then I met my current husband later in life? What should I do? Should I break my vow to one man to pursue my "soul mate"? Certainly not. A vow is a vow, and meeting someone you think might be better is not a good reason to break it. I think there is a danger in constantly wondering if the person you're with is "THE" one or not, because there are times when it wont feel like they are, or when someone else will come along that will make you question that. So I think believing in soul mates might lead to a life of endless break ups and pursuing the next best thing every time you feel like the oerosn you're with might not be your soul mate because you met someone who seems better.

 

Also, come to think of it, perhaps we sort of make people into our soul mates.

I was pondering this. The man I dated just before my husband is now very different than he was back then, or at least I didn't realize he was that way then. His political beliefs, for one, are FAR different from my own, in a way that I would be very unhappy with and would cause some major arguments if we were married.

But, if we had gotten married back then, maybe he wouldn't have those views? Or maybe I would have different views than I do, because I'm influenced by him?

In some ways, my husband and I are good for each other based on things that have always been true: personality traits hes always had or I've always had, our upbringing, the views we had before we were together, etc. BUT, on the other hand, perhaps one reason we are so good together right now is because we've been living in very close proximity in a romantic atmosphere for 5 years. Hes probably become a lot like me in a lot of ways, and I've probably become a lot like him. So perhaps that's why people think they are soul mates sometimes. They've sort of made themselves into soul mates over time.

That being said, there are plenty of things I dont necessarily like all the time about my husband, and I'm sure he could say the same about me. But even those things, God can use for good and to strengthen our marriage and grow us as individuals, because conflicts and disagreements and differences can sharpen you as a person.

So yeah, I think I'm going to stick with no on the soul mates question. I think it's too simple of a notion to encompass everything that goes into making something like love or a marriage work out. And I think if someone truly believed in soul mates, they would probably never find theirs, because nobody is every going to be perfect. And shouldnt a soul mate -- if he/she exists -- be perfect for you?

 

I don't think there is such thing as a soulmate (as in the perfect woman or man for you in the idealized sense). There are people who can be very compatible with your personality, lifestyle, values and goals who you might also find attractive. However, I think every individual has their own set of problems that prevents any relationship from being the idealized "soulmate" relationship. Furthermore I would argue that a person doesn't necessarily have to be initially compatible with you to seem like a "soulmate". Humans are constantly adapting and changing their perspectives, so the person you might look at with disdain might eventually become someone you end up loving from a mere change in paradigm; usually stemming from accumulated experience in interacting with that individual and just living your life.

Take any pair of individuals from the opposite sex and of a similar age and throw them into a stranded island where they have to depend on each other for survival for a few months. Likability is they will come out of the situation thinking of each other as soulmates.

 

Its complete and total utter stupidity, moronic, absurd bullshit, bananas.

There is no such thing as soul mates.

Why limit yourself to one person? There are so many people who may be right for you and this apparent soul mate of yours may not be your best match.

I mean come on, there is one person on the planet that you where meant to meet and spend the rest of your life with. What absurdity.

BTW, there is a soul of a person but no part that is divine. Even if you are spiritual, to believe there is one soul mate is dumb. Whatever, your life, good luck with your "soul mate". (Cough)


No seriously, good luck!
All the best

 

I believe in soul mates, as long as they are easy on the eye and great in the sack and my personality match, that's my only criteria. Luckily @lolwut fulfils 1/3 of ma bucket list, so it's all gravy.

 

It's impossible to be with someone who you'll love all the time, everyone has things about them that their SO will hate.

The trouble with believing in soul mates is that there's a domino effect where you'll be responsible for the downfall of many relationships if you get it wrong. I mean if there's only one person for you what if you get it wrong? If you get it wrong then it means you've taken away another persons soul mate, and then that other person has got with someone else's soul mate and that other person is not with their soul mate either. With soul mates, all it takes is just one person to get it wrong and many if not every relationship could be messed up. That a lot of pressure to put on a relationship.