My time to quit

A lot of us are in the same boat. We're here to save ourselves and our families. There are lots of good scientific reasons why porn is bad for us individually and for our relationships, and when you throw religion into the pot, it can become a very high stakes thing.

I don't know if your wife knows, but if she doesn't yet, then you should tell her and let her know you're struggling before she finds out anyway. Either way will be hard for her, but the better way by far will be your honest, sincere, confession. I'm saying this because that's what my wife told me.

Life and marriage are sometimes tough but mix lies into them and they become a LOT harder.

If you're anything like me, you'll read this and tell yourself, "Yeah right. No way am I going to be able to do that. No way will things be better if I tell her." But I don't think you'll ever stop unless she knows, and also you should give her a chance with the truth - you owe it to her anyway.

Take care and keep up the good work.

Davecb, 37 days without porn.

 

Hi and welcome to the site, pleasehelp!

We have plenty of married guys on our community. Perhaps you could start finding an AP (accountability partner) from around your age? http://www.nofap.com/forum/forumdisplay.php?20-Ages-30-39

Also there's a section for relationships: http://www.nofap.com/forum/forumdisplay.php?14-Relationships

I'm single, but I've read many stories of married men dealing with this problem with their wives.

To find a good AP I recommend you to start reading journals and post and when you find someone that you see is more or less in the same line with your views, you should send him a PM (private message). At that's what I did to get in contact with my APs. That's the great part of NoFap: there's a place for everyone here, from all different backgrounds and beliefs.

Here's my "starter's kit": a recopilation of the best resources that got me to where I'm now: more than 6 months free of PMO, and more than 3 months free of MO, with only two relapses since I started.

Please take a look at them and adapt them to your own needs and habits.

http://www.nofap.com/forum/showthre...what-to-expect&p=111775&viewfull=1#post111775
http://www.nofap.com/forum/showthread.php?26386-37-days-in&p=154506#post154506

At my signature you'll find several links with the best resources that I've found as an active member of this community (since the beginning of 2014), along with documents that I've created both to comprehend the nature of addiction and to develop strategies to overcome it.


Galaxim.