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New- trying to end the cycle for GF

Discussion in 'New to NoFap' started by for_her, Dec 20, 2014.

  1. Dec 20, 2014 #1
    for_her

    for_her New Fapstronaut

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    I have been chronically masturbating for over ten years. Once in a while turned to once a week, turned into even more. I used to do it to help me sleep, when i was bored or before I went out. It has ruined my sexual desire, and has given me issues with performance. I have embarrassed myself sexually with several partners. Two years ago, I finally had the chance with my high school crush, I couldn't get hard. I am 24 years old.

    I tried to quit my addiction to porn and masturbation before and after that incident, but I have failed.

    I finally met an amazing girl again. We have been dating for 10 weeks now. I have been doing better but not great. I am committing myself to stopping this affliction, for myself and for her. I know that I could be pleasing her better, and nothing is more embarrassing than losing an erection.

    My hope is that by stopping this cycle, I can perform to my best. I finally recognize that addiction has been the reason for my failures and will stand against it.

    Any tips to stay on track would be appreciated.

    Also any tips on if it is a break in the cycle to have sex while stopping masturbation and watching porn.
     
    for_her, Dec 20, 2014
    for_her, Dec 20, 2014
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  2. Dec 20, 2014 #2
    Walk the Path

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    Hey Man.
    Firstly, not being able to keep an erection is nothing to be ashamed of. It is natural and it happens to the healthiest of men. Personally I think that you having sex with your partner is a healthy step in the right direction, not a break in the cycle. But I guess it all depends what you're hoping to achieve. Regardless, I hope you find what you're looking for. :)
     
    Walk the Path, Dec 20, 2014
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  3. Dec 21, 2014 #3
    21decisionforlife

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    I agree u habe to see the whole thing more relaxed. I had the Problem of coming to fast (possibly from p too) ans the First time it happened i felt ashamed too. I had a girl before who would have pressured me in such a situation but this one she kissed me and said "honey I love you". Don't underestimate love in this whole thing it is in my opinion the thing that motivates best and in my case my decision for doing this!
     
    21decisionforlife, Dec 21, 2014
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  4. Dec 27, 2014 #4
    Benny

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    Well, same problem here... One thing have work for me a little, have a picture of her (or a word, a picture of you together...) near you everytime, and when comes the urge look at here, and think about your love, your projects, your desire to surpass yourself, to be there for her, that if you resisted the next day in bed will be a thousand times better ...
    Also you can reward yourself by sex, see that with ur girlfriend ! Something like no PMO and sex for one week, and then at the end if you succeed you get the reward ! Same as when you do some sport, at the beginning you don't see improvement and as the weeks passes you realize that you're getting better and you have to hang on !;)
     
    Benny, Dec 27, 2014
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