Blue Balls

Hi Everyone,

I'm on my 3rd attempt of a 90 day no PMO challenge and I'm running into the same wall I hit the first 2 times. On day 4-5, I begin to get a lot of pain in my testicles (blue balls). The only other time I've felt this in the past is after having fooled around with a girl, but not ejaculating. After masturbating, the pain leaves in a few minutes.

This affects almost every aspect of my life during those moments as all I can really think about is the pain. It's not excruciating, but it's there, kind of like a headache.

I'm currently on day 4 and sitting at work with blue balls. I do not want to masturbate by any means, and I'm willing to deal with it until it eventually leaves (its been 2+ hours by now), but I'm reaching out to see if this is a common withdrawal symptom others have experienced, or if there is any other way of getting rid of it.

I come from a background of masturbating practically everyday for the past 8 years, to give everyone some context. I also watched porn almost every time I masturbated.

I appreciate anyone's comments & insights.

Thank you!

 

Thanks Benny, you are absolutely right!

 

Hey Everyone,

I'm now on Day 12. I'm convinced my addiction spans beyond P&M and enters the "sex addiction" category. I've been with hookers on several occasions in the past and to be honest, P&M is the least of my worries at this point.

I'm really proud and happy with my progress so far. Day 12 is unknown territory for me. My courage and self esteem are really being put to the test at this point. My girlfriend and I broke up 3 days ago which I'm a bit sad about, but I am now motivated to work on myself as much as I can. I essentially took this challenge because I will be entering Yoga Teacher Training the 25th of this month. The Yoga Sutras of Patanjali talk about celibacy as a form of conserving sexual energy, and while I'm now single and my instinct is to begin meeting other woman and dating again, I'm focusing on holding back and focusing entirely on myself because there is nothing I want more than to overcome this addiction so that I can lead a happier life in the future.

My greatest challenge at this point is not thinking about girls that interest me. I consider myself fortunate to be an "attractive" guy, which has really made it easier to bond and engage with girls. I think that is why I'm so used to, as we say in my country, "removing one nail with another". I break up a relationship and immediately I am on to a next. I want to break this cycle and get to a point where I no longer look at girls with this type of intent. I feel like as interesting as a girl might be, my final goal is to get in bed with her, and I think that is awful, considering the best moments of my last relationship had nothing to do with sex. It's summer here and billboards are full of girls in the tiniest bikinis and that is what I see everyday driving to work. Because of this, I begin my workday with blue balls. There are also a few attractive girls in my office and I cant help but check them out and fantasize in my head. I'm hoping this is just withdrawal symptoms of breaking my addiction because that is definitely not the person I want to be.

There is a chapter in the Yoga Sutras on selfish vs selfless thoughts. Every time I check out girls and fantasize I am aware these are selfish thoughts as I am only thinking on the pleasure I would get if I hooked up with them. I literally cant think of anything I would do with them besides sex. This is so selfish of me and I want to change it. I'm hoping that withdrawal symptoms aside, this 90 day no-PMO challenge will help get my mind out of this cycle.

Anyways, I noticed a lot of people jot their thoughts here and they've talked about the positive effects of it so this is me doing that. It definitely does feel great. I am very thankful for having run into this and for the fact there are people who have decided to make this shift in their lives willing to hear you out and give advice, so THANK YOU.