Sup Community, I've been doing PMO since I was 10. I grew up afraid of the world and especially women, and turned toward many destructive behaviors to cope with my strong feelings of inadequacy. I'm now 21 and have grown out of most of my past bad habits (drugs, alcohol, and video games). The only thing left I cannot get a handle on is PMO. Every time I PMO I feel ashamed, but my moral convictions are completely minimized when I feel the sudden urge. I just got out of my first relationship ever too in which I experienced a lot of bedroom rejection which really destroyed my self confidence. Going in to that relationship, I was able to stay abstinent from PMO on my own for about three weeks because the thought of getting intimate with my now ex girlfriend relieved the urges. However, when I was in the relationship (which turned unhealthy pretty quickly) and started experiencing rejection my bad habits returned with a vengeance. I have had no grasp on my PMO habit since. (I'm not sure what the difference is between PM or PMO, so if someone could clarify, thank you!) I'm very excited to find this community of people who struggle with the same addiction I do. Thank You All!
Hi, I'm glad you're here. It will take a lot of determination and self discipline but we can all become new people and start all over again if we stick to our goals. We will become a better version of ourselves, we are all in it together as a big supportive community.
No self confidence? Why? I am unable to make it out of your story. Goodluck with your Journey to stay off the path to self destruction. every addiction is bad, both Drugs AND masturbation.
Thanks for coming to this site and sharing. Sounds like you're off to a good start by recognizing these things and are willing to begin the journey back to where you want to be. I'm sure you'll find LOTS of advice and information here to help. If I could offer one thing right off the bat that is important to remember as you move forward: Your brain is elastic. Wherever it is now in terms of PMO, that's not where it started. Over time, as you suggest, you slowly modified your way of thinking. PMO is your new 'norm.' The hard part is making real women/situations/love your new norm. Switching from one to the other will take time and work. But if that's your goal, you can definitely make it happen. Understanding this fundamental truth may give you some confidence to lean back on when recovery seems futile. You changed your way of thinking. You can do it again. Good luck and peace today. -BD
I just got out of a relationship that left me feeling very rejected and I've been at an all time low in self confidence. I also have had low self-esteem all my life. I hope that clarifies.
That would do it. For me, a huge part of regaining self-confidence came when I started having compassion for myself. In the beginning, that sort of terminology was completely foreign and strange to me. I rejected it as a sort of 'new age' or hippie way of thinking. As I began to suck it up and gave it a shot, acceptance of those words moved me to a much better place in my mind regarding self-awareness, self-worth, and self-confidence.
It comes down to this; if you can't love, respect, and take care of yourself, how can you expect anyone else to?
Hey, just answering: PMO stands for porn, masturbation and all kinds of orgasm, PM is just porn and masturbating. So, if you choose the hard mode, it’s abstaining from PMO. This might help: https://www.nofap.com/glossary
