I'm a 16 year old guy, and I recall my first time using porn being around age 12. For about four years, I've been creating, without knowing it, a strong addiction to PMO. I just couldn't go without it for more than a day! As almost any person who watches porn, I slowly started watching more and more hardcore porn, but never weird fetiches or unheterosexual stuff. During this escalation, I often surprised myself in how my mind was always seeking novelty and strong visuals. However, last summer, I discovered Nofap by pure luck thanks to the video that the channel "improvement pill" made about it. I lasted a little less than a month, and it wasn't so hard for maybe 15 days (probably because it was my first time trying it) but it then became a constant fight with my own mind. In order to stop this mental suffering (I really felt it that way, it'sreally unomfortable for me to not masturbate when I have urges, almost mentally painful) I decided to just fap, but to quit porn. The problem is that, as I said, i'm unconsciously looking for more, and in order to stop myself from watching porn, I had to fap several times a day. Eventually, I just couldn't stop myself and started watching porn again. After that, I started to realise all of the symptoms that PMO was doing to me came back, like mood switches, fatigue, sadness, loss of self-confidence. I started to do Nofap again, but just relapsed all th time in a week or less. It's been incredibly difficult, and almost impossible to not PMO when I have urges. However, this time, for 2019, I really want to improve and therefore get PMO completely out of my life, which I know will be one of the hardest things to acheive in my life. As a soldier ready for battle, I am ready to start this journey again and never give up or abandon my objective. I have found a lot of comfort and help on this website. I am now on a two-day streak, and I really hope and pray that the urges will not get the best of me. Wish me luck!
Thanks for the support! I think that it's a good thing to start this early, I've watched tons of youtube videos of people saying they wish that they had found Nofap earlier. The problem is however that as a teen I think that resisting PMO is harder because of puberty and all that
Porn addiction is as bad as drug addiction or alcoholism. You are young and is great that you have found this website. Realize that it is a poison for your mind. It will distort sexual reality. Sex is a great thing, but porno is the tool of the devil. You think it won't have any effect at your age, but it will. I have 30 years plus of this crap in my mind and I wish I never experienced it. Do not think it is harmless. Just think, when I was your age it was just magazines and sketchy movies if you could find them. Now it's a click away...way too easy. My advice: stay strong. Find things to do, take up something, a sport, weightlifting, art, music, whatever to divert yourself from the easy way out. Stay strong, my friend. You can do this. The fact that you recognize it now is a big plus. The years pass quickly by and you may potentially miss out on a lot of living. Good luck, you can do this.
I have in fact started boxing and weightlifting last september, after my one month streak. Since then I've been into it as much as I can, going at least 4 times a week. The big problem for me is mainly when I'm resting, because I know they are moments when I have to rest or watch a movie and these are the moments where I end up relapsing. I try to use the "ten minutes later technique" I recently discovered I I hope it'll work well. Thanks for the support and the advice, it means a lot to me.
Unfortunately, I relapsed twice in the past three days. Hopefully, it wasn't a full-blown relapse because it just happened twice and I'm starting my streak again. Even if relapsing is very bad and I feel bad about having done it, I am also happy because I managed to do a 14 day-streak, and I've started a new streak to try and do better this time. I've started meditation and I also pray when I feel that I should, which helps a lot with the urges. I learned that I should work out when I get urges, but I already work out once a day and need to rest my muscles. Doing just like 30 push-ups doesn't help. I also learned about cold showers, which I take a lot in summer and very often, but unfortunately in my country the winter is very cold and it's too difficult for me to force myself to take cold showers. Do any of you have other ideas to fight the short-term urges?
Your objective is to disassociate porn with an orgasm. That's the bad connection and the one to break. As you are starting your streak again, perhaps you're more aware of increasing your goals...2 weeks..3...keep going. Distractions are key, there's always something else you could be doing...and not PMO. Think about what a time-waster this is. Trust me when I tell you over the long run (it has been decades for me)nothing good comes out of it. At your age, you don't think this can affect you, I understand that...but it does. Puberty is a bitch, I remember those days, but the sad part is you've got all the porn you'd ever need and then some right in front of you. At your age all we had was pictures and magazines. You obviously came here for a reason. Think about that. It takes a lot of self control to defeat this. (I'm not a big cold shower advocate...I would definitely find something else to do...) Find an outlet, be creative. But not PMO, man. For me, the distractions over the last 33 days have been a godsend...not to mention I've gotten so many things done. I'm here for continued support. Hang in there. Try harder.
