Hello!

I'm 27 years old, and I signed up for an account after committing to the idea that I need to make a lifestyle change after being in denial for the last few years.
My story begins two years ago when I first started dating the girl I'm currently with.
I never realized I had cultivated such unhealthy porn use until I started dating her.
Though I had kissed and cuddled with other girls in the past, I was a virgin and this was the first relationship that got physical for me, and that's when I started having some noticeable issues.
We would be making out, and I wouldn't always be hard, and even when she was going down on me, it would take me forever to come (over 45 mins. sometimes), and only with extremely active fantasizing.
We tried to have sex early on in our relationship, but I couldn't stay hard enough for penetration, and sometime barely hard enough for getting the condom on in the first place.
Though she was understanding and accommodating, partly due to being a virgin herself, I was so discouraged and embarrassed that we didn't try again for several months, ending in the same way as the first time.
Needless to say, I was even more discouraged, further leading to a negative and hopeless view of actual intimacy working out.
We settled for pleasing each other orally and with our hands, but I deep down something was wrong.
I was still occasionally using porn, and would often choose masturbation over actual intimacy, and when I didn't masturbate visually to porn, I was using it to get off anyway, just through mental fantasy.
It's also worth noting that my sex drive has been all over the place, and definitely diminished dramatically when it comes to actual human intimacy, which was and is scary.
I didn't even want to try to have sex again for fear of it ending the same way, so for the last two years, it's just been the massive elephant in the room.
I had my first real wakeup call when my GF wanted me to go to the doctor fearing that something physical was wrong with me. We both knew we were missing out on a huge part of our relationship, but it took her to bring it up for me to actually start taking this really seriously and putting her before my pride to get to the bottom of this problem.
So after doing a lot of reading, and realizing that I have a lot of the symptoms of a porn dependency I've decided that this certainly couldn't hurt, and so here I am, taking ownership for not addressing this problem soon, but determined to make a huge change going forward for both of our happiness.