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Discussion in 'New to NoFap' started by WalkLikeAMan, Mar 17, 2015.

  1. Mar 17, 2015 #1
    WalkLikeAMan

    WalkLikeAMan Fapstronaut

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    Hello all,

    I'm new around these parts but I've been trying to recover since July 2014. I've been addicted to PMO since I was 10 years old. My family almost always had an Internet connection at home and I was downloading pornographic images and video since I was young. Now I'm a 31 year old male in a dedicated, albeit long distance, relationship with my girlfriend. I've achieved streaks of up to 30 days but have yet to reach the elusive 90.

    I have been a part of the NoFap/Pornfree/NoFapWar community on Reddit. As much as I enjoyed my time there and appreciated the support, I felt the NoFap sub-reddit was becoming a parody of itself and so I abandoned my involvement there (unfortunately). Also, my girlfriend knows my account name and I didn't feel that it was fair for her to suffer the pain of my relapses and things I typed in my posts.

    Unfortunately, leaving Reddit caused me to lose emotional and moral support. I was making strides and easily got to 7-14 day streaks. Over the last two months I feel I have lost all my progress as I can barely get passed three days without a relapse. I just relapsed about an hour ago :( But I'm not quitting! Never quitting!

    2015 hasn't been all bad. I've lost 15 pounds as I have been going to the gym four times per week. But I do need to take control of my struggle. I'm here to state my intentions and strengthen my resolve to succeed. I want to take part in this mature community and help others succeed too.

    It's time to walk the walk.
     
    WalkLikeAMan, Mar 17, 2015
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  2. Mar 17, 2015 #2
    pitazz

    pitazz Fapstronaut

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    Welcome bro am also new here I have struggled with porn for over 10 year...at first i thought its something i can stop just like that but I was wrong its a drug that is hard to quit it takes more than willpower.porn thrive in secrecy and isolation so I decided not to keep it a secret anymore so about two weeks ago i confessed to my galfrnd about about my addiction to tell u the she was very impressed with my courage and she has be supporting me throughout.Just like you we in a long distance r/ship,what I have done is i have downloaded accountable2you software which keep track of all my phone browsing details sends a report to her and my best friend as accountable partners.To win this war we must be totally honest with ourselves. Am 12 days no pmo...
     
    pitazz, Mar 17, 2015
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  3. Mar 17, 2015 #3
    WalkLikeAMan

    WalkLikeAMan Fapstronaut

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    Interesting. I have not heard of this software but it definitely sounds like it would help. Thank you, friend. And best of luck with your struggle!
     
    WalkLikeAMan, Mar 17, 2015
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  4. Mar 17, 2015 #4
    Limeaid

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    I would say the best thing is to stop thinking in terms of 30, 90 days. Start thinking about going off for life and taking one day at a time. Don't ever give up and one day you will be free. I think that giving time limits puts pressure on some people and they white knuckle it until they reach the 30,90 days or whatever. That is not a real plan and it's not going to help you. Get real and make a real plan about getting on with the rest of your life, forever. Treat every single day like the first day and do the first day over and over and over. Find what your triggers are and what to do about them. Figure out what works to squash a sudden urge. Make a plan.
     
    Limeaid, Mar 17, 2015
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