Haven't had a girlfriend in 8 years!

Huh, these days I was upset realizing I haven't had a girlfriend in 2 years now. But I can relate to your situation and I'm symphathetic.

 

I got NoSaint beat by 10 years.

But yeah. Youth. You want to get this fixed while you are young enough to enjoy it. Socializing gets much harder for many people as you get older. If I knew back when I was 19 what I knew today. It feels like it is too late. Even if I had more social chances, old women... meh. The percent of attractive ones at least outside of hollyweird starts dropping quite a bit. I'll always regreat not being able to date when I was younger when girls are at their prime.

Act now!

 

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Also, you are making too big a deal out of this. From the thread title I thought you were going to be 40 something. You are 19....you shouldn't have girlfriends in high school anyway.

 

Don't mean to pry, well I suppose I do but you put yourself out there.

Am I reading you right, you haven't had a gf in 45 years? Were you ever married if you don't mind me asking? Or just no intimate/romantic relationship with a woman in 45 years?

I ask because I am genuinely curious.

Choose not to live with regret. There has to be a decent woman out there for you, if you want to be with one. The past is gone. Youth is transitory. Find a soulmate now.

Or are you choosing a life of abstinence or celibacy?

 

Wanted to. Put myself out there in real life also. Never found anyone who showed any sort of sign of attraction. At best casual friendliness. [Well one exception but we lived too far apart and we were too different anyways]. Last 10 years is worse as I am out of school [12 years university], can't find any hobbies or groups in town to connect with people except for the sausage fest called chess and the gym where females again with the lack of attaction and can support a frugal life without work or the dole thankfully.

Worst thing is I can be pretty bold if I have a legitimate reason to approach a girl. I saw this insanely hot girl in a class when I was about 20 and just walked up to her and started chatting. For 5 terms if I saw her on campus I'd join her and chat. I couldn't even ask her out as friends because I was terrified she might think I had ulterier motives and get weirded out. I think I would be able to now at least after I've known her for a bit.

I have a lot of bad social history and weight issues. Expressing anything that might be considered sexual interest in someone who has shown no interest in me that way fills me with a complete terror. I can be at perfect ease speaking in front of 100 people for several hours. If there is a funny comment or if I have a legitimate need to talk to someone, no matter how hot I can. No problem chatting with girls while they work. Do something that might make them think I am interested in them... I'd rather face an angry Bear with a toothpick or go to a Justin Beiber concert.

 

i havent had a girlfriend in 6 years, i don't know what it means and even that last girlfriend i tried too hard,PM made me want to test it in real lyfe and i went to her direcltly in an awkward way, thats when i got dumped...and ive been girlfriendless ever since,,but im hoping this quitting will turn things around.

 

You have to work on overcoming your issues (as do we all). However you are able to. And it sounds like you are letting fear control you. Fix those things, and maybe a woman will naturally be drawn into your life.

Maybe women can sense your fear, like a magnetic force repelling anyone who may want to be in an intimate relationship with you.

 

I have no fear unless I want to make my sexual interest known or potentially known via confusion. If I don't think about doing it I am fine.

But yeah, I got issues and I've been trying hard for 20 years to fix them without success.