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A sudden burst of confidence!!

Discussion in 'Success Stories' started by TeetotalTom, Mar 9, 2015.

  1. Mar 9, 2015 #1
    TeetotalTom

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    Well....it's been just under 2 weeks and I can already see the difference it has made. I'm less drowsy, I'm happier, I'm more active, I'm more talkative. I have been dying to ask a girl out at work for months now but I kept making excuses not to. Suddenly today, out of nowhere my confidence got a massive boost. My fear of rejection and worries about porn induced ED just disappeared. I grabbed my phone and sent her a text asking her out for dinner. She said yes. After I got her message, I kept asking myself: Why didn't I do this months ago?? Why has it taken me this long to do something so simple??
    I have not been this happy in a long time. I feel free. As well as this, my perception of her has changed completely. Up until now, all I was thinking about was whether I would be able to impress her in bed (if I got that far) and I kept trying to imagine what she would look like naked. These thoughts are no more. All I have been thinking about is her smile, her eyes, and her fun personality.
    All I had to do was quit porn. Porn is as bad as drugs, and I believe more men - especially young, curious teenagers - should be aware of its damaging affect on the human brain. We should be telling them to avoid it at all costs before it does the damage.
     
    TeetotalTom, Mar 9, 2015
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  2. Mar 11, 2015 #2
    ForThePeople

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    Congratulations SeaFire! I want to be able to see women the same way you do. Your success story is motivating! Keep it up man!
     
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  3. Mar 11, 2015 #3
    wildcats

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    That is amazing man. The absolute longest I have gone hard mode is 6 days and I have also seen a crazy difference in myself at that 6 day. It is crazy how much porn can affect our brain. Honestly at that 6th day I felt so confident and happy but I was so horny and that urge got the best of me and I relapsed. I hope one day to be completely clean and just to get that glimpse of that person I can be and should have been for the last 6 years was an eye opener.
     
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  4. Mar 11, 2015 #4
    Whiskeyjack

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    I'm 11 days in and I feel great. I wasn't able to talk to girls at all.
    Today I just went next to a girl in class. We talked a bit. It felt great.
     
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  5. Mar 11, 2015 #5
    cataroux

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    I couldn't agree more. I have a 13 year old cousin whom I treat like a brother and I think I'm going to do my best to protect him from porn. He's already told me he watches it sometimes, so I better urge him to stop now before it consumes him.
     
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  6. Mar 12, 2015 #6
    TeetotalTom

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    I'm not sure whether this is a good or bad thing....but I'm starting to get random erections! lol
    I suppose it's a good thing, but not when I am walking down the street. I am also feeling extremely horny - so much so that I've had to resist the urge to go out to nightclubs every evening for the past 3 days in search of a one-nighter - especially considering that I have a date a week from now! The next week is gonna be a real challenge :/
     
    TeetotalTom, Mar 12, 2015
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  7. Mar 12, 2015 #7
    Nath1234

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    Very inspiring post SeaFire!!...

    Keep up the good work...

    I like to believe random erections are just brain's trick to give it the load of instant dopamine, which it used to have at any point in time (after making oneself watch P --> M --> O) ...Don't succumb to its tricks !

    <My 10th day now, even I do get it , that too in office premises, watching hot chicks walking by) :(

    Carpe Diem!
     
    Nath1234, Mar 12, 2015
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  8. Mar 13, 2015 #8
    MeetJoe

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    Congrats Bro...Happy for you...
     
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  9. Mar 15, 2015 #9
    TeetotalTom

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    This is getting really challenging now. I mean REALLY CHALLENGING!!! The idea of giving up just keeps flashing through my mind constantly. I nearly nearly went for a PMO 5 mins ago. I literally feel like I am in a wrestling match against my brain and he has the upper hand. How can I hit back???!!!
     
    TeetotalTom, Mar 15, 2015
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  10. Mar 15, 2015 #10
    Howie

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    And your holding on 18 days later...Keep on holding on buddy....Im at 21 days and its been relatively easy...I just meditate constantly...And any sexual though that appears, I transmute them towards my business goals...Works well for me....
     
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  11. Mar 19, 2015 #11
    foxmaestro

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    Congratulations Bro!! ... Masturbation kill seduction.
     
    foxmaestro, Mar 19, 2015
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  12. Mar 22, 2015 #12
    TeetotalTom

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    Well...I relapsed. After a heavy night of drinking I lost my drive to continue. I wouldn't call it a porn binge. I regretted it immediately. This relapse has led me to 4 realisations:

    1) Drinking loads of alcohol never leads to any good outcomes! I've never woken up after a night of heavy drinking and actually felt good about myself, or felt that it was totally worth it. It basically causes depression. Hence, if I am to do a proper NoFap reboot I should avoid drinking at all costs.

    2) I need a porn filter on my browser for times that I may be less likely to act in my best interests.

    3) Rather than aiming to quit porn for a certain amount of time I need to aim to never watch it again. I believe that if I do this the urges will decrease, because I am eliminating the possibility of porn itself.

    4) I need to avoid using my laptop for anything but work until I have properly rebooted. My laptop leads to a situation where porn is only one click away. If I am on Facebook all the time, I will be more likely to get the urges.
     
    TeetotalTom, Mar 22, 2015
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  13. Mar 22, 2015 #13
    NF SINCE BIRTH

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    Get right into a new streak! I have realized after ending up binging a few times after long streaks that this is yust another trick your brain throws at you. You know deep inside that you have done a lot of progress even tough you gave in for a short moment. Your brains tells you that you have allready reset and it doesnt really matter. It makes it seem a lot harder than it really is. The only thing we have to do is to not touch ourselves! Sounds easy right? So, my goal now is to stay clean from now and to the end of the Easter Holliday. That would say 16 days. It aint gonna be easy but if I can do this after a heavy binge, you can too!
     
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  14. Apr 2, 2015 #14
    The 1000 Water Fists

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    Your words have certainly given me encouragement and motivation to go on.Porn is posion to the mind.I wish you all the best,good luck brother.
     
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  15. Apr 3, 2015 #15
    Cooldude4

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    very good and inspiring, keep up!!!
    Porn is indeed a poison, I wish I had some one to guide me when I was teenager, but never mind, I will make sure I motivate and show the right path to other teenagers.
     
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  16. Apr 3, 2015 #16
    anony mous

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    so happy for you asking that girl out! even if you relapsed later you learned from it, thats how its done. keep us updated
     
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  17. Apr 3, 2015 #17
    willgrit

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    Absolutely awesome post man. Great work.
    I want to post something similar very soon too.
     
    willgrit, Apr 3, 2015
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  18. Apr 4, 2015 #18
    unlimitedpower

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    Congratulations fellow fapstronaut
     
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  19. Apr 5, 2015 #19
    Andrew0268

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    Great job' im happy for you
     
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  20. Apr 6, 2015 #20
    fapequalsdeath

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    Fuxcken awesome man i saw cute girl in subway today but i did nothing. My mind just froze and i couldn't do it then i got on my station and started beating myself up for not doing iut.... I am so happy for you man I hope i get to the point you do
     
    fapequalsdeath, Apr 6, 2015
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