I Am Tired Guyz, PLZ PLZ HELP

Hey man,

Firstly I want to say that I truly sympathise and can relate to your frustrations. I’m in a similar position and have only recently realised how bad my habit has become and want to stop it at all cost.

Previously I always felt that I was the type of person who was in charge of my emotions but lately this has been put under a considerable amount of question.

I’m in my early 20s and want to kick this habit just like you. Today like so many other days I relapsed. Just for the sake of it I did it twice cause I was just so upset, I know when I wake up tomorrow to go to university I will feel the same sensation of emptiness, hopelessness and just the utter desire to scream from the top of my lungs at my stupid actions.

However, my advise that I can give you is as follows. When you get these outburst try to not be alone avoid it all costs, I have personally found that sleeping patterns can help sorting this out try going to bed at a set schedule I know it can be hard with work but I have gotten some reasonable results of not engaging in it for 2 weeks.

Nevertheless, I am an addict of 3 years so take my advise with a pinch of salt

 

You shouldn’t blame yourself, you’re just 18, i’m 43 and living the same that you described, the only diference is that i have less time to still live my future new without these lusty habits out from my life.
Wake up and get early to a wonderlife that is starting know!

 

Just hang in there. You just cant rid of it in one day. Its a slow process.You said you were class topper so you wouldnt have become the topper by studying for just one night. Its a slow process where you study everyday. Like you cant get abs just by going to gym for a day. Thus the same process is applied to get rid of addiction. I know that addiction at any age is harmful. But as you are just 18 you have still lot more to achieve and a lot of time too.
Whenever you get urges just go out or play with your brother or sister or make random talk with parent.Even if you arent able to control your urges then just go and sit somewhere around people.
I know it takes a lot of mental strain you will feel like giving up many times but believe me just hang in there for few days and while you are recovering from this try to keep your mind busy because you will feel lot of emotions like lonliness ,depression and many other emotions which is also a part of recovery and dont give up in that phase.
Whenever you feel like there is no one for you or no one can understand you, you can just come here and share you thoughts. There is always some one who can relate to you and understands you. May your journey inspire many others.
Wishing you all the best on your journey

 

Ya bro you right and my situation is most wrost because I can't control pmo after 1 or 2 days

 

Hey, are you here ?

Keep doing man, don't give up, you have the power on this small tempest.

 

Spoiler: you soon

 

"NO MARRIAGE" if we "DON'T LEAVE WATCHING PORN VIDEOS" we have remind this again and again hi guys me too strugling but alhamdulillah it's 6th day running,to the "fighter" my advice is to joo good gathering or with good friends involve yourself in the talks and tasks in the morning time and in the night the night time open NoFap write down on paper and see how many days you have not seen "dangerous killer porn videos" 1 day 2 day and so on...keep involve yourself in something walking,running, smiling or making new group on what's up for friends or family member s,see amazoA CEO video think about money career,marriage etc

 

I understand the thoughts that you are going through, and the pain that you are feeling, I have relapsed so many times, but I'm also hopeful all I know is as long as there's still another day and I'm still alive I will keep fighting till I win. I know sometimes it is not easy because the people close to you may never know your fight, and they might not understand, so you fight these battles alone. But either I think this site is my new family, I have seen that the more your problem is known and the more you sorround yourself with people fighting the same fight as you things just get better, it gives you courage. All you need to do is to survive today, it not gonna be easy man, life is journey, but if we remain focused and doing all we can to change our lives, life will also meets us halfway. You in this community now, so we fight, forget about other people's expectation, you got to fight to fix yourself and I think right now that what we need to focus on. The more we overcome our weaknesses our terrible habits the better people we become and it easier to handle other life's challenges because we are free inside. I know it might take 6- 10 years to master a bad habit (my case) but it takes one day, one decision to change your life forever and for the better. The first step is realizing problem and then making a decision to solve it, of which you have already done. And to to see that your only 18 man well done there. It not gonna be easy, it gonna be hard but we gonna keep fighting till we win. So hanging there man, keep fighting never quits. We fighting together. Today is my day 2 in this forum. I have decided to incorporate my fitness training with the fight that I'm currently fighting, I wanna be a better man, disciplined. And I know I will be as long as I don't give up. So man, keep fighting, forget about how many times you've messed up, it brand new day as long as you've made that decision in your mind. ✌️

 

It has taken me over 30 years to get to the point where I admitted I had a problem and committed to fixing it. Its hard, when we make porn such a big part of our lives, we can't just rip it out and jump to the end declaring we are all better. Its going to take time to heal. I am currently at 18 days which is my longest streak in 30 years without PMO. I couldn't have done it with out this board, without my wife, and without a commitment to myself.

Right now you are going through a lot of pain which fuels your addiction. Your addiction causes you and those you love pain, which feeds right back into the addiction. Its a vicious circle that you have to break. Its difficult, very difficult. I must have told myself that I needed to quit thousands of times over the last 30 years, but kept coming back for more. Make a commitment to yourself and to someone you love that can help you. Then work on rebuilding you! You are 18 and have a chance to rid yourself of this poison NOW, before it affects wives and children. You can do this.

 

...it was two days before I hope now 7th day running (alhamdulillah ( by the grace of my Allah))...you,me and all of us could make compititcom eachother no need of shame if loose but again cry but try to chase healthy and ssccessful people...to all of us all the best

 

Good going guys