So far so good. Sleeping well. Lots of spare time. Haven’t told the wife what I’m doing. What do you think?
Congrats on 21. Telling your wife depends on a lot of things. Is she expecting sex and you're not having any?
I don't see any situation where a PA has a relapse and his wife (who is aware of the addiction) should not be told about the reset. This is really a no-brainer, to me. Most times when guys ask the question whether they should tell their wives or not, I feel that its almost always because they want someone to tell them that they don't have to. So in my opinion, if she's already aware of your addiction, then yes, she absolutely should know about it, and more importantly, she should hear about it from YOU rather than find it on her own. There may be some wives who have left a marriage/relationship because of a reset, but there will always be a thousandfold more who left because of lies and secrets. If your wife doesn't know about your addiction, then I'd say you should probably talk with a CSAT counselor to mediate a disclosure day.
With respect to the link above, the one person who provided the most helpful and useful advice is need4realchg on my thread. Read that. I understand exactly how you feel.