Having Sex during NoFap?

Hey guys,
you may notice im a new member but i count myself to the most motivated ones in here.

i turned 35 couple of weeks ago and i ended up here because of a broken heart happened 2 months ago and i really felt that its time for me to change my life drastically.

dont worry, im not here to pour my heart out! but there is a weird part about it that i would like to share and i have some question about noFap in general.
so, the weird part of the broken heart thing and maybe you guys had similar experiences...

its not about the person, its only about breasts. i thought that this is normal but i talked to a lot of friends about what they are going through after a break up and what they are the most sad about and i dont know if all of them had be honest to me but literally no one told me that they missed their ex´s because of specific body parts ONLY! and i also only fell in love with women whom had nice breasts.

so my first question... did you guys had similar experiences with break ups, where you only missed specific body parts and your mind went mad and told you "you wont find a nicer pair of..." whatever? even tho my last girlfriend was a goddess and a lot hotter than the girl im writing about -_-

so i started looking on the internet for some answers for my weird behavior.
i went through "becoming an alpha", "loa" and many different self esteem things until yesterday a good friend told me that she met someone who is doing a "no-pmo-time".
at first i thought its just bs but as i arrived at home i started to think more about it and realized that im pretty fu**ed up.

i started fapping when i was about 12 years old and since im 14 i have unlimited access to porn on the internet and this just cant be healthy. there has been times in my life when i thought about it and that it cant be as healthy as i always thought but i always ended up persuading myself on "thats what men need" and bs like that.
of course there have been days where i didnt fap but over all in the past 21 years there havent been more than 7 days in a row of no fapping. thats really shocking to me. especially if you have fapped 2-3 times a day!!! and if thats not enough... my last relationship is more than 5 years ago and guess what, i know tinder since 5 years and i think i slept with more than 80 girls in the past 5 years and of course faping all the time and having sex just dont work well. so my stamina in bed also decreased extremely and i started taking this little wonder pills. but i always had this little voice in my head telling me, that this way is not going to end well for me and i really dont want to mess my life up with that.

i red a lot about the benefits of noFap and i think this could cure my weird behavior after break ups too.
i always felt it but i needed some kind of kick in a** to wake up and i think that happened yesterday night.

i want to go into full hard-mode. i want to ban porn and fapping completely from my life and enjoy having sex only with other women. that doesnt mean that i want to have a lot of different women, im looking for "the one" because i really want to have a loving wife and kids and all that stuff. but i think you guys get the idea.

there are couple of women im dating right now and im new to this matter so my second question is: what about real intercourse?
should i ban sex also for at least 90 days? how do you guys handle NoFap and having sex?

thanks a lot for every answer and sorry if i make mistakes, im not a native english speaker :-/

 

wow, i have never thought that way. thanks a lot. for a long time i thought that something is wrong with me and you barley find something on the internet on "missing only body parts of your ex after a breakup" except some weird murder and kidnapping stuff.

i really think that fapping decreases your testosterone level a lot thats why im unsure about having sex. i think i should first become normal again and then start having intercourse.
thank you!

oh yeah man, i know exactly what you mean. this woman i was writing of had a lot of problems in her childhood, her mom left her alone and her dad kicked her out because of a woman. i mean there has been so many red flags she showed up but...

its great to see that im not the only guy going through such things.

have you also been heart broken about that?

 

thanks a lot pjco!
yes i think so too. i just cant right now and thats ok for me. im not ready for having intimacy with someone new and i know that none of this girls im dating would be women i would consider having a relationship with. it would only be for distracting myself and as you said to fill in time.
i also had some kind of "sexting" with someone i know for a couple of months today and i felt awful afterwards. i started thinking of my ex again in a long time and thats definitely not what im looking for. im ready to find someone new, someone better but it will take time and i think its the best for me to take a break from dating and do my nofap time first and to get pure with myself first.

thank you guys for taking the time to answer, i really appreciate!
you rock! time for noFap now!