Hello, This is my first attempt at NoFap but it is very long overdue. I am 28 years old and have had a porn addiction since about 12. I had very little supervision growing up so I was really able to look at anything and had access to porn from a young age. This caused me to be introduced to masturbating even before I went through puberty. Once I was able to successfully ejaculate I didn't stop...ever. When I lost my virginity (age 17) I didn't finish because I was totally desensitized from the feeling of pleasure. Still able to finish myself I carried on this ideology that it was a gift that was a good thing since woman always complained about men orgasmed before them and too early. This seemed to work out finally proceeding into young adult hood. Problems didn't occur until my sex drive started to lower because of now, not having anything to hide from since I didn't live at home, was able to masturbate multiple times a day and watch porn when ever I want. Since I was doing this for so long it started to affect my marriage since I had to either have sex for her sake even if I didn't feel like it so my performance was subpar or she would have to wait for me to be in the mood which happened randomly and usually when we were already in bed or in the middle of the night. I've since got a divorce for unrelated reasons and am now with someone that I care a lot about and would like to try to cure this addiction and actually be to share in the sexual experience of an orgasm with my partner. This is not going to be an easy task for me and even sitting here writing this on day 1 of my experience without porn or masturbating I am finding it ever difficult to keep my mind from slipping into doing so since I am, home alone which is often in my current situation. I need a leg to stand on, I am looking for some suggestions or ideas to gather my footing to start feeling more confident in being able to achieve this. Thank you
Welcome to the forums. What are your goals for a reboot? What do you want to achieve, and why? I’d also recommend that you decide ahead of time what constitutes a reset, and preferably write it down somewhere.
My goals is to achieve an orgasm with my partner without the need of my own hand. I've long understood I was not able to since of my porn and masturbation addiction. Why? I do want kids with her (I have one from my previous marriage but had to finish myself and then insert) so I would like to try to avoid that avenue again. Given I am not trying for children now (prob in a year or so) I have some time to try to achieve it. A reset would be if I watch porn and masturbate. which is the reason that im in this whole mess in the first place. Im not sure what PMO means. I am new here and seen the acronym multiple times but haven't figured it out. Personal masturbation orgasm? lol idk. EDIT: Oh, Its "porn, masturbation, orgasm" got it. lol
PMO stands for porn, masturbation and orgasm (the things that people often abstain from on a reboot). You can find some useful information here: https://nofap.com/porn-addiction/ https://nofap.com/rebooting/
Yes, I came to that realization and intend to take this as long as possible. Im starting with the goal of a month but wish to continue for life. I already cleared my computer of porn recommendations and sites I follow so they wont pop up randomly while I am doing normal internet browsing. I just need some recommendations besides "just dont do it" to keep me from relapsing because I don't wanna go back and I would love to have my first true real orgasm with a partner.
Hello and welcome! We are glad to have you as a part of our community. Here are some quick links to get you started. Getting Started Guide | How to Use the NoFap Forums | Panic Button | Day Counter | Rebooting Resources | Forum Rules | Glossary If you wish to keep a journal of your progress you can do so in the appropriate section found here You can also take part in one of the many challenges available. It can be a tremendous help. Challenges Also, there are groups you can also join if you wish to do so. You can browse through them here. Groups There are plenty of wonderful, friendly and knowledgeable people here to help you along on your journey to a life free of PMO. I wish you nothing but the best!
Wow, what a story SodaBoda. Sounds like you need some support. I would like to reach out and help ya if possible. Good for me, too. Good night.
Oh hey, someone scarred by trying to live up to others expectations, welcome aboard, hhaha Don't mind me, it's just nice to find people who feel the same as you. No doubt we'll prevail, take care!
Hey. Nofap is not your average game. It's not like "now it's hard, later it's easier " or "now it's easy later it may get harder" It all depends on somebody named "you". He knows what triggers him and what causes him to relapse. He knows secrets of unknown and he is stronger than all the thoughts. Find him and he will tell.