41 and I NEED to quit this P&M habit! Marriage past being on the rocks!

I wish you all the best to overcome this. I think an important thing to keep in mind is that it is possible and you can beat it, its hard, painful, uncomfortable, but ultimately immensely worth it. And you certainly don't lack for reasons to beat this. I myself am engaged to be married and now is the only chance I have to beat this before I get married and I really don't want this to poison my relationship with my partner.

This forum is full of people going through the same challenge and I really encourage you to keep on here and seek encouragement from others. One thing that really helped me were the Nofap academy videos on youtube as well as the Sacred Sexuality Project also on youtube. These provide amazing info and inspiration that I never would have begun to battle this addiction if I did not see these.

Be strong brother and I pray that you will overcome this.

 

I was in a somewhat similar situation in my marriage. Our sex life wasn't working that well, I had DE and ED and found PMO much more gratifying.

I haven't kept a journal but my DE and ED started going away within a month which in turn had a huge positive impact on our sex life which in turn helped me keep going with nofap.

The first weeks were tough. What really helped me was listing my triggers and actively staying away from them. That included things like staying away from the computer in the evening, avoiding late night tv with ladies in underwear, keeping my eyes away from billboards with lingerie ads etc. I was feeling a bit paranoid the first weeks as I noticed triggering images everywhere.

And of course read the materials on yourbrainonporn.com , starting with the great Internet porn experiment.

Good luck! Good things will come with nofap.

 

Honestly i am going to press that report button on you .. you wanna know why .. because you are weak , you don't deserve to be called a man you should put on a dress and walk the streets like a girl ... you know I wish I was living next door to you , i am 21 years old , i would tell you the things i would do to her( like carry her out for dinner outside under the semi-sunset sky and stare into her eyes until the butterflies in my stomach can't take it anymore , i would kiss her in the rain and make her feel young again, i would smell her hair just for the fun of it, if she is ugly *I wont do those* na im kidding) but i wont you wanna know why .... because she still loves you... you want to stop but you cannot want to stop , you MUST stop , affirmation without action is a delusion, you do not reach failure one time , you may fall once but failure is a constant repetition of falls without reflecting,analyzing and preparing for the next time, YOU must..